Hi
I am new and this is my first post as I am looking for some advice please, I have tried to convince my partner to do counselling with me but she refuses to discuss her daughter in any sessions, the daughter is a huge, but unacknowledged issue.
We have been living together, unit recently for 3 years. I have always had a partner and lived with someone and kind of go with the flow and understand that everyone is different
She has not really ever lived with anyone in years, just been her and her daughter (17)
So anyway her and her daughter moved out recently as her daughter wanted her own toilet and not share with my son (15) so they moved out. Yes I am serious.
While I have many concerns this is one I would like some opinions on:
During the weekend I was violently sick, vomiting non stop, I could barely get off the bed, no energy, a very bad case of gastro - I lost 4kg in one day after 8 hours of constant vomiting and dry reaching to give you an idea of how bad it was.
She came to visit me on Sunday afternoon, she only comes when her daughter is out doing something else, otherwise she has said that her daughter is always the priority and will stay with her.
Despite me being so clearly unwell on a Sunday she didn't stay to make sure I was ok because she had to leave at 4.30 to make her daughters diner, so left me lying in bed and went back to her daughter.
Now I could fully understand this if her daughter was young, didn't have a car, didn't have plenty of money and didn't enjoy eating out at every possible opportunity, but that isn't the case.
Yes, I would have liked some attention, yes I would have liked to seen that I matter and I would have liked her to say you are really sick, I want to stay and look after you a bit longer. Had the situation been different then I would not leave her sight until she was better, I guess I just expect the same in return.
Am I being selfish? Should she have prioritised my health and wellbeing on this one occasion?
Thanks