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I know I cant be like that tho...but blocking him is the only way I can move on and show him im not putting up with his disrespect no more and also will stop me keep looking at his last seen knowing he's not talking to me.

No he hasn't its been 10 days now...

That too.

Well that's what him and his family with think..it will make me look bad and I'm not like that...I have always got on with his family quite well...I think im just too nice lol

It's been 10 days no contact from him. Over Xmas nothing his mum messaged me saying she hasn't heard from me and that he told her we wasn't talking but she's not getting involved. I said nothing. I honestly can't be in a relationship with someone that does wrong and then doesn't communicate or aploigise when wrong and can ignore me days and weeks and I know that if I was to contact him he would go on like nothing ever happened but i wont do that. I always felt that blocking will look petty and childish its not like he's bothering me or messaging me. Also that it's defo done ive never blocked before but it's a new year and I need to be happy it's draining and I know I would have the same thing over and over again.

Thankyou for your advice everyone. I knew what I had got do it was just doing it. Update is I finished it a week ago I had enough of him accusing me of going with guys I work with or just anyone. I have been doing over time for extra money for xmas he kept going on about how I'd rather spend time at work with the guys then with him. He asked me to go out with him to this Christmas event and I didn't really want to because last time we went he ruined my night with his jelousy I never even looked at anyone. He told the reason why I wont go with him is because I had probly been with most of the men there and my past was there and he's opened his eyes and can see I have a secret life and I'm narsty...he said people have told him the same. Then he kept hanging up the phone on me when I was trying to talk to him and he would text me saying I'm busy I'm doing what u do. I just couldn't take it no more I know I've been 100% loyal to him but no matter what I say its not going to change anything he will always think same way although he has nothing to go on i feel emotionally drained how can someone tell u they love you one minute and the next call u every name under the sun and treat you so rubbish...it's been a week no contact and im keeping to it i know it will be for the best once i get through it...im going into next year with a fresh start.

I hear that you are right.

Hes 20 now he's leaving home to buy his own place, he asked me to move in with him when my son leaves home but that would never happen, he doesnt work he claims job seekers I work long house and earn good money he always moans I'd rather spend time with my Co workers than him. I'm very independent always have been.

None of my family and friends like him

I talk to family and friends thats it really.

I really can't tell u i have always had attachment issues and stuck about in relationships a lot longer then i should have done. This is what I need help not doing.i always feel in a way that I'm the problem too at times he does twist things alot and makes me feel like sometimes I'm the cause but I think I have the issue i can't just walk away.

He doesn't want to change he will never change. he does work on the side i dont give him any money. Yes I do get upset its the constant accusations the verbal abuse calling me narsty when I've been nothing but loyal to him it's draining I've really had enough..one min he's lovely next abusive

I always think he might change his ways he can be nice. I'm trying to help him do better by encouraging him to work. He says I'm jelous of him how am I jelous he on benefits I don't know what I love to be honest!

I really can't answer I guess I'm just used to him, this Is what I cant answer I do wonder If I have issues too and it's not only him and he has got a good heart and is helpful but seriously I dont know what to say this is why I feel so stressed as I don't know why I'm holding on. I think I have attachment issues but something dont feel right this is why I keep making excuses not to see him I'm not happy at all.

I've been with my partner for over 5 years. I'm 42 he's 52 It's been very on an off from the start. When we first got together I found out he was still talking to exes behind my back and it ruined my trust for him straight away that's when the arguments started I was going to leave and he said he had cut them all off. After that it was a very bumpy relationship his exes were turning up to family events which made me feel uncomfortable but I was just made to get on with it..still 5 years later they still show up whenever there's a party but I've just got used to it but I always have thought it was disrespectful and no one thought of my feelings and he wouldnt say anything. He's never really worked since we have been together in the 5 years and is happy just claiming jobseekers. where I have always worked hard and I work alot and always have and try and encorage him to get a proper job but he shows no interest he wil say next year but he goes on and on about my work he dont see me and accuses me all the time of cheating when I'm not that is in itself stressful. When we argue and he's in the wrong he will ignore me for days and never apoligises. We havnt celebrated birthdays or anniversary because of the arguments over his jelousy and paranoia and disrespect and we dont speak during that time. We recently had a break and we met and talked and ive started to see him again and it was fine for a week or so but just recently he's been going on again about me working too much accusing me with men hanging up the phone and last night sent me a picture that he had took our pics down off his wall and said he can now have other people in his house, women who want to spend time with him and I can have my work mates as he puts it, next day hes telling me he loves me im his everything and he wants us to live together when my son moves out...we had a night out and I saw a colleague I worked with I smiled and said hello and he kicked off and ruined my night and is now saying I have something going on with him. I have found myself making excuses to not see him I feel like so much has happened he's verbually abusive when we argue i can't communicate with him properly and he twists everything to be my fault plus its getting to xmas my family dont like him and they dont even know I'm talking to him again . I feel stressed out im not happy with this situation before and I'm having anxiety everyday..