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We are both very early 20s. He does struggle with mental health, but it not as open about it. I do my best to give an open space to him without overstepping boundaries, but that really just results in him sharing a few small pieces to shutting the conversation down. I did not have any mental health issues until this situation has been going on. One thing that i believe may be why he’s not intimate, is that they have learned about my past lovers and the conversations between them, and it most likely caused major insecurity.(this was also 4-5 months ago) Since this, it gives me reason to speculate that its being held against me. We also do not live together, me in college full time, part time job and him with full time work, we spend at least one or two days together in person (every week) and the others in online games, hobbies. The relationship overall has been okay, with an argument maybe every 2 ish weeks, not a constantly occurring thing, but it does happen. And they mainly are just attempts of communicating something and it is not taken well. We clicked really well in the beginning and had a lot of common interests and views. I do have hope that the relationship can grow and get better. I just need to tackle this issue at hand.

Hello, I’ve been in my relationship for nearly 9 months and things were the typical exciting and adventurous as most honeymoon phases go, but as of the recent past months, there has just been a decline of most things intimate. This does not solely revolve around sex, but the little things like cuddling, being close, kissing, etc the things that come to mind that typical relationships have. I dont really know how to approach the situation, as I have tried communicating these things, perhaps not as well. But i did try. I do want to note that my partner at first was quite clingy and enjoyed being around me physically and soon enough that too has found a decline. The only answer I have gotten is that they are not the physical type. It doesn’t really reflect on the person I knew a few months ago. It just honestly breaks my heart, and I would appreciate any insight. Thank you.