maleuk123

ive treid, it eneed upo with 2 dealers staying for a few days them sharing a bed me calling her a *** and asking her to leave then when explaining why i feel like this and we keep arguing in front of her "friends" she hit me 3-4 times and i told her again to leave She says that she leaving in the morning i have asked if we can speak about it and try and work it out shes not interested The worst thing of all of these is she denies we in a relaship and everything asummes she working me fore mioney and at the moment after the last few weeks i feel like she is more and more if its not to bark orders at me or tell me what a scumbag i am its was to ask for money was the only time she would talk to me

still stuck on what to do now unfortunately one of the worst things could of just happened and her daughter died, a few days ago. she is devasted, i have tried to talk to her about it but she is still shutting me down in fact the only time she has really spoken to me about anything in the last few weeks is to either bark orders at me, have a go at me or to remind me that I'm the Ahole here and to ask for money we did speak about how her addiction consualer has offered her a place someone, but didn't really finish the confesation. I have asked myself a few times the last month of so more agtern if i was truly happy what i have shouted at her all those times I feel bad trying to bring this up now after everything since then i cant even spend time with her as we have dealers over even spending the night now i know its bad just don't know how to bring it up without her kicking off or turning things around on me

i know its enapling, it just hurt that someone called it abuse tbh

what do you mean by that?

how thou? kick her out on the street? where god know what will happen? The only places she could stay would be dealers or other adducts places where she would have no chance of escaping her situation? what i would like is advice in how i say no to her without shouting at her un a calm manner yes i am complaining i am struggling here and cant talk to anyone about it relly and just written it down helps

I TBH that hurts? i struggle to understnad how am I abusing her? yes I shouted at her but only after she kicked off after i said no, and kind off threatened me saying you just wait to see what happens to you, not for the first time as well whilst the dealer and his GF sat here all waiting for me to be paid to pay off her debt! one of 2 that night her dept was over 500 quid an she will get someelse to send her money or steal or sell her body for sex to fund her habit I'm also going to say this believe it or not i am not having sex with her in exchange for this money so how is giving her money for drugs abuse if i was i could understand it and would be ashamed of myself even more

Thanks this is easier said than done, her pharmacy and doctors are on my road and she is living with me still just got paid and she owed over 500 quid was put on the spot i said no shouted at her, called her a few horrible names and gave in again I feel bad for both especially as she has been off with me for over 2 weeks now and for what i said she said that i do this all the time now when i get but i wanted to talk to her all week about this but she wasn't interested and shut down most of our conversations

Hi I need some advice here on what to do next For the last 3 years I have been in a relationship with someone who I care for deeply and love to bits she is an amazing women but has her how do I say this flaws I’m not perfect but her main flaw is that she is struggling with substance abuse to a point her 2 children live with her mum and for the majority of the time she live with either me or at a drug dealers place! Last yeat I had a very serious heart attack due to being a heavy smoker and not looking after myself I left the area to move in with my mum to recovery and then in march she came up here, I got us a flat, and we have been living together pretty such ever since Then in September on my birthday of all things I had found out that she had been cheating on me with someone she meet onlibne1 not just that but she hide her Facebook profile from me and changed her status we spoke online and he would send me threating messages causing me stress that most likely lead to a retinal bleed He came up her and we spend a few days together and I had to bit my tongue I was heart broken and felt like screaming He left and she stayed here we spoke about why she did it, and she explained that she was lonely at the time she was staying ion a women’s shelter, unhappy and didn’t think we would last as my family aren’t her biggest fans due the addiction and when I had my heart attacker I was at home for 5 days alone also when she went to rehab 2 years ago she meet someone their and then ran off to be with him then came back and he bit me up we still have a good times where we get one and work well together, she even went 6 days through withdrawal and then the guy sent her money and she was back using again I was proud she went 6 days without anything and if it was me I wouldn’t have sent her money then I then got paid a week or so later and said no to giving her money she kicked off as said just you wait to see what happens to you etc, and I gave in When ever she speaks to him she is horrible to me and we dont get on so last week I said its him or me you cant have us both anymore She explained that she didn’t want to burn her bridges with him just in case we fell out but I have explained a few times that is why we keep falling out! he came up here to see her and the day before she told me that she didn’t want him to come up but her was coming up anyway I knew how she want the conversation to go was for me to tell her to go with him have a weekend of sex and then be able to come back I told her if she went with him then she might as well take all her stuff with her! I had to draw the line somewhere At times I have been off with her when she off with me Tho and maybe haven’t made her feel welcome at times cos she makes me feel like that what she wants whenever I try to talk about this with her she turns it around on me all the time and I drop it and say sorry I had my car written off last week as well and got over 2k from insurance company, I wasn’t going to give her anything from it but did, and have now discovered she has stolen about 1k from me as well I’m not sure what to do next I cant speak to anyone really about this my friend and family would tell me to call police and kick her out I dont want to speak to her family as they will be shocked and t might effect her relationship with them she is in a recovery program but still using as of today but we have no money so not sure whats next! I dont deserve any of this I know that but dont know what to do next I Love her to bits and want this to work out