BrambleFrost

We've been together for 4 years, We are 21,and yes we do live together. Im currently seeing a therapist who has been helping me with my depression and anxiety but she does specialize in DV and SA as well so i will be discussing this with her. Although i will also be looking for a couple's counselor seeing as we clearly have issues with boundaries, might see if i can find one who is familiar with the BDSM community like you suggested.

Hi. Before I begin i wanted to state that in no way do i wish to break up with my partner. I understand that this is a very sticky situation, and it can be a deal breaker in other people's situations. So please respect that. Now i seek advice on how to navigate the situation. So a few weeks ago my partner and I discovered that we enjoy some harder kinks. We tried them out and in the mist of things i became uncomfortable with a particular activity and used our safe word. However it was ignored, i tried multiple times to get them to stop by repeating our safe word However they were not responsive to it. They did notice my changes in mood though and paused to check up on me. I explained what happened and they obviously felt guilty, they also asked me if i wanted to stop completely and knowing how higher their libido is i allowed them to finish but without the kinks. After all that i found that i had lost my trust in them, i no longer trust that they will respect our safe word during intimacy (Or my self in turn). But now the issue is that my partner is heavily sexualy frustrated and I am not comfortable with intimacy. Although I myself would love to be able to participate again, i cannot bring myself to do it. Now my question is what can they or i do to bring that trust back?