I (24F) love my boyfriend (26M) but we are on different timelines
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and we are very loving of each other. We are completely honest and supportive of each other, and we rarely fight if ever. It’s like we never had a honeymoon period because we never went downhill.
However recently we’ve been talking more about our life plans. My boyfriend wants to be married and have kids when his 28 (in 2 years) but I am not ready for this. I’m going through some career changes and don’t think I am anywhere close to wanting or having the mental headspace and care at the level that I want to give my child.
I do eventually want to have kids but I don’t know when. My boyfriend says he can wait an extra 1-2 years which I’m very grateful for but I also feel very pressured by this deadline (even in 4 years I would only be 28 and I’m not 100% sure I’ll be ready then). I can also tell this 1-2 year delay is definitely not ideal for him…
I’ve been thinking that if he really wants to hig his 28 yo timeline I probably should stop wasting his time so he can find another partner with more similar views but it pains me because I really do love him. Has anyone been through the same dilemma?
