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Thank you for the replies. He is just in a bad mood a huge percentage of the time. When he is in a bad mood, it always turns into a fight where he says things that he doesn't mean. I think this comes from how he was raised because he has always done it. Then minutes later he is totally fine and we make up. It wasn't that big of a deal when it was every few months, but now it is like twice a week or more. When we make up he says all of the right things and I think everything is fine and that I won't have to deal with it for a while. It is hard to know exactly how he feels about what happened since he will say anything to hurt me when he is angry. I think he definitely blames me some, which seems like a natural reaction and I for sure could have made better decisions when it came to some things looking back, but you don't really expect something like that to happen. I just don't really know why he would act like that so frequently if it is not resentment. To give a few more details, it was a co-worker, no one else was home, and he knew as soon as I could get in touch with him, which was a few hours later. It was a straightforward thing with it being completely obvious what happened, like it's not just me saying words against my coworker and police were involved immediately. I think he had a psychotic/drug induced mental break or something. I went to counseling weekly for 6 weeks after and now am doing it twice a month online. I think marriage counseling would be very beneficial, but don't know what it would take for him to actually do it.

I am 27 and my husband is 35. We have been together for 6 years and have a 1+ year old daughter. Earlier this year, I was assaulted. I don't think all of the details are important, but it was a nightmare and really hard on our relationship. We were both really going through it. I feel like I am past everything except for what it has done to my marriage. Sometimes I feel like it was harder on my husband than on me. Things are just different. We are so distant from each other and he is so quick to anger. He is so emotionally shut down and I think he resents the hell out of me, I don't know what else to think. All of this keeps building resentment and idk what to do anymore. Like I'm seriously considering separating even though I really don't want to do that because I love him dearly. I kept thinking more time would help but that doesn't seem to be the case. Would a planned, short term separation be a good idea or make things worse?