Karina2801

Last night he came to pick me up for our date and he said he didn’t eat anything all day but had a few drinks and was drunk. Then went to get more drinks. I know he’s addicted and struggling but recently he said he’s sobered up and that he’s done all this for me. I guess not going drinking every day was his version of sobered up. So I was upset because he couldn’t stop drinking even as he’s driving and upset because he told me this as he’s driving. We ended up arguing and then making up but he said he’d go back home and keep on drinking. So today pretty much I got the silent treatment. I messaged him and I haven’t heard back. He used to go to the bar all the time and he had girls and this is making me feel insecure. I apologized to him last night and I guess I don’t want him to get back at me by doing that. He was really mad and I’m not sure what to do/say to make things better.

I asked him about the condom and he said it was from us from a month ago. That it probably stayed at the bottom of the garbage. How he wouldn’t cheat.

You’re completely right. I’ve never dealt with this ever, and it’s very painful to think that someone you care about is doing that. It’s sad because almost all his friends and family are doing one or the other.

To be honest I just wanted to be his friend at first and then things progressed. He can be super sweet, nice and funny. I knew he had struggles but then he said that he loves me and I trusted that.

He’s in his late 20’s and it’s only been a few months. I thought by having someone positive in his life who doesn’t do those things he could see that there’s more to life.

My boyfriend has addictions. I accepted this as something I could help with and we ended up dating. One night he told me he got drunk with a female friend (didn’t tell me he was going) he said he knows she likes him but he would never do anything with her. The next day I found a condom in his trash (new trash bag) and it looked like there was period blood it smelled too. I saw two wrappers too, one was expired. I feel like a psycho. Previously I had seen two condoms at the top in the trash on the same side that he doesn’t use when we’re together which is why I explored the garbage. I asked him if he’s slept with anyone since we started seeing each other and he said no. Now he missed an important appointment because I’m guessing he drank. I didn’t tell him about the condoms. I wanted hard evidence but this is destroying me. I’m not even sure how to break up because I want to trust him. I’m just so torn.