Justin, just a name

I do get that I might seem to be living in a fantasy. I'm not going to deny that I'm looking through rose-coloured glasses and am a hopeless romantic, but I do realise that chances of it working out are not very big. That's why I'm here to see other perspectives, which already have given me few things to think about and bring up in future conversations. We both are going to have a very busy next month at work, which will limit our connection quite a lot. I guess it will be the first real test. Thanks, I was thinking about the same that we should spend together at least 3-4 days together in a row in the following months to see more of a every day life. But what do you mean by her phone activity? I'm not the jealous type, I don't care who she's communicating with if she doesn't wanna share it. If she's dating multiple people and throws me to the side, I'm fine with it. Means that I wasn't that interesting to her from the beginning, but at least I travelled, saw new places and experienced new cultures. That's what I would have done anyway, but at least I got a local guide.

Yes, I'm a secret. But so is she, I've never in the past gone and told everyone who I'm dating, only if it's been more than a year. As it's still early, I don't see that as an issue. As I mentioned before, we've talked about religion. I do know what is her religion, what she does in this aspect of her life and how it affects her. I don't get why you mention language, we share a language that we both use for work. If our knowledge was bad, we wouldn't be working at the same company. Regarding culture, the difference is the upbringing, but not how we see the world today. Obviously there are some differences, but mostly we share the same view. We are meeting up in a big city that is in her country. I live and work abroad and she works in a neighbouring country where she is also from.

No, no signs of that, I just wrote what are my thoughts about this topic. She's a very open minded person, I don't think it would be an issue. But of course these are some of the things that should be discussed.

Regarding visiting hometowns and/or meeting families, for now due to timetables and free time we have to meet somewhere else, otherwise we would only get 1 hour to spend together when we meet. She doesn't want her family to know for now as it's still something new and they are very nosy, as for me, my family lives on the other side of the world, so it's obviously not possible. I've never put any importance on having my family's approval or thoughts on my other half. For her it will be important, but that's far in the future. We have talked about religion, how we view it and what it means to us. When I was a teenager, I might have been a "Reddit atheist who mocks God with every second sentence", but I'm a different person now. I don't mind converting as it's just a paper. I understand that pretending to be a follower, but not believing in it might devalue her beliefs. And I don't have an issue with having a religious wedding. As for children, I'd prefer them to know about all of major beliefs in the world and making their own choices. I don't think I would be fine with shoving religion down their throats while they are still learning how the world works. But I don't see an issue with having my children celebrating Christmas and going to church if she's Christian, doing Ramadan if she's Muslim or meditating and doing yoga if she's Hindu. My issue would be threatening them with heavenly punishment from an early age. There are customs and traditions and then there is emotional terror.

On average we see each other once a month for a whole day. Willing and able to relocate in the future. Yes, it was friendship at first. Why I hid it? I like deleting things once they become irrelevant. The original question had no use for me anymore. No, we haven't met each other's relatives, nor visited our respective homes.

Which of these are the biggest issues in a relationship? 5+ year age gap Atheism vs hardcore religion 1000+km distance What if I have all of these and those are the only "issues" (I don't see them as issues, just small obstacles to jump over)? Yeah, I know, date local women and so on. But have you ever had that feeling like you've met your soulmate? I feel like I've finally done it. I wasn't looking for anything, so even if it takes 3 years to come to fruition, I'm fine with it. I've never been interested in getting married or starting a family, even when being together with someone for 4 years, but suddenly when meeting her everything has changed, I'm ready for anything. To answer obvious questions. Yes, we've met multiple times for a date, talk or chat or do other things together almost every day, don't have any arguments and really enjoy spending time with each other. We speak freely and continuously clarify if there seems to be an issue or a misunderstanding. Let's say our ages are 35 and 30 to make them round. Both have had long-term relationships. None of us want to make a family or huge commitment right here and right now. Different cultural upbringing, different languages (we both speak English as an x'th language, but we can communicate very well), but yet here we are. It's still something new, 5 months and counting, but we've known each other for more than a year. We work at the same company, but from different countries. I realise what a long shot this situation is, but better to give it a try than wonder what could have been for the rest of my life. I'm not looking for reasons for ending it or continuing it, just other people's perspective on it. I've read a lot here, so I know a lot of you have a great view on relationships. Am I crazy for believing this could work? P.S. I had another topic which I hid months ago about how to stop crushing on someone and return to friendship. Guess what? The story continues.