philliesfan0910

She does play her part financially. She does a lot, but at this point in my life I don't wanna Spend 5k. ill do 4k MAX. When I graduate school, then we can upgrade.

she thinks that a $3,000-$4000 ring isn't a "quality diamond"

We looked together once and the lady asked what my max was and I told her, she she showed me rings in that price range.

if she payed my bills then yes, that would be emasculating, but I have come to the conclusion that I'm paying for what I can afford right now. If she doesn't like it, then that's just too bad.

not that I know of.

I want to share the cost of the ring haha. That's like emasculating

She is not materialistic. Her mindset is that this is the ONE time where she cares about what's on her finger. My mindset is this is what I have to offer right now, later on we can upgrade when I'm finished school.

yes, lol. the budget is for the ring only. It sounds like she doesn't want to get engaged until I can afford what she wants.

I don't think that. Her stance is just that this is something she will be wearing everyday and in the first time in her life she would actually want to have a real diamond.

My gf and I have been together for 3 years now and just moved in together last January. We have talked about getting engaged in the past and before we moved in I told her by budget was $5,000. Well now will the added cost of rent along with some debt I have, I may only be able to afford $3,000-$4000. On top of all that I'm trying to get through school. We discussed this last week and she really wasn't happy with the idea of me lowering the budget. She said she's worth more than that. She also mentioned that she is willing to wait until I can afford what she wants. I kinda got taken back by that and it made me a little upset. I have grown in my faith( I'm a christian and so is she) and now that we live together I want to be at least engaged. confused on how I should handle this issue.