Hi There! I(26F) am in a quite happy relationship with my partner (M32) for about 5 years now. We happily live together for multiple years, finances are shared and in general things are fine. However something is concering me and i have no idea how to deal/approach the situation.
About 3 years ago on a drunken night at home he confessed to me that when he was a teenager (about 15 years ago) his older sister had a girlfriend over for a sleepover, while they slept he touched the girlfriend while masturbating because 'he was horny and curious'.While he did express his regrets about the situation, he also didn't seem to feel too guilty about it because 'what happend happend'.At the time I was disgusted but drunk and decided that since I loved him so much and he didn't have any concerning aspects otherwise to let it go.
However, apparentely I didn't let it go because I cannot look at him the same anymore. to the point that it's heavily influencing our sex life. Furthermore over the past years there's been an issue where he'll just randomly grabbs my boobs or touch me and when I say no or ask him to stop he'll just laugh and tell me this is his 'boyfriend privillege'.
The thing is, besides these 2 things he is absolutely wonderfull but at the moment the taught of having sex with him disgusts me and I have no idea what to do next.I've already suggested couples therapy to him but he's not willing to do so because this is 'my problem'.
Hi There! I(26F) am in a quite happy relationship with my partner (M32) for about 5 years now. We happily live together for multiple years, finances are shared and in general things are fine. However something is concering me and i have no idea how to deal/approach the situation. About 3 years ago on a drunken night at home he confessed to me that when he was a teenager (about 15 years ago) his older sister had a girlfriend over for a sleepover, while they slept he touched the girlfriend while masturbating because 'he was horny and curious'.While he did express his regrets about the situation, he also didn't seem to feel too guilty about it because 'what happend happend'.At the time I was disgusted but drunk and decided that since I loved him so much and he didn't have any concerning aspects otherwise to let it go. However, apparentely I didn't let it go because I cannot look at him the same anymore. to the point that it's heavily influencing our sex life. Furthermore over the past years there's been an issue where he'll just randomly grabbs my boobs or touch me and when I say no or ask him to stop he'll just laugh and tell me this is his 'boyfriend privillege'. The thing is, besides these 2 things he is absolutely wonderfull but at the moment the taught of having sex with him disgusts me and I have no idea what to do next.I've already suggested couples therapy to him but he's not willing to do so because this is 'my problem'.