I work full time I earn decent money better than average, I do have guy friends and associates, I do have hobbies that I spend a little time every now and then doing, but life is generally ok we just got back from a holiday too which I paid for. My ideal amount of intimacy? I don’t know I mean once a week would be nice I don’t expect it to be as mad as when we got together and it was like daily. I get that. But now we’re talking months and in all honestly when it happens she has no interest or is into it it’s probably just because she’s getting worried about me leaving and just puts out for the sake of that. However now I just wonder if it’s me that’s unattractive or unsatisfying or if it’s an emotional connection issue however I try to open up and have discussions but where can I get when it’s just the I’m fine we’re good answer.
It’s just like it’s gone stagnant, like I’d say it’s probably like living with a housemate or in a house share now I mean we share a bed but we’re not close in the bed even.
outings wise we go for meals out, walks in the country or to nice parks, sometimes it will be a surprise on my behalf. Which she seems happy with when there and soon as we’re home it’s like I’m a mate again.
im almost to the point where I feel like giving up and have had to come on here to vent out because whatever I say to her seems to be listened to but ignored.
and I’ve not been called a people pleaser however I am someone who would rather see someone else happy.