havingahardtime

Thank you for your support and I'm so very sorry to hear about your niece. My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm planning a day out with my mom very soon, just the 2 of us. I want some one on one time with her before it's too late. I want to write a letter of everything she means to me, since when I try to say it I get too emotional to get it out. Happy new year to anyone reading this. I hope your 2024 is filled with happiness.

My mom is still with us ❤️ We had a lovely Christmas with everyone. She has just one treatment left of this course and then she has a little break. She's definitely more tired and she is losing weight due to having issues keeping food down. I had a chat with dad yesterday and he did mention how it has spread everywhere. He has been with mom at the scans and it is in so many places now, including her hip and knee bones, by her stomach, across her abdomen, liver and lymph nodes. The one by her stomach is a big one I think and it's probably the one interfering with her eating. She did have a brain scan and thankfully it is not there. I would hate for her cognition to go when she doesn't have much time left. I know there's nothing that anyone can do. I just wanted to come here and vent a little. I'm just so happy we got such a lovely Christmas with her. We can dream for another, that would be amazing, but considering how it went from just localised in her foot last Feb to being everywhere 10 months later (with ongoing treatment the whole time), I'm trying to be realistic and enjoy every moment we can. My husband got a beautiful candid photo of her while everyone was opening presents. I'll treasure it ❤️

That is a really good question to ask. My mom is such a worrier, so it would be lovely to remove some of the worries she has. Group photos will also be taken. Photos are so important. Thank you for your message and advice 💕

I'm so very sorry about your friend 💕 It was lovely that you could make the most of the time you did have with her. We are all looking for little and big things we can do for her. Dad has some big house projects that mom has wanted doing, one of which will be done next week. It's a beautiful covering/veranda on the side of the house so she can enjoy sitting out listening to the rain. I have been trying to get an old negative that had the last photo of her dad printed for years. I finally found someone that was able to do it, I pick it up early next week. I hope these things help her enjoy the time she has.

I'm so very sorry for you loss💔 I'm so glad you got to spend time with your mom and make memories before she passed. Sending you my love 💓 Your situation sounds so very similar. It's so heartbreaking no matter how much anyone prepares. I know that I will be devastated when the time comes. We know that any treatment she gets will only give us a little more time and that there is no cure. None of us want her to suffer. So we really hope that it doesn't happen that way. Thank you for your advice 💕

Thank you for your replies all. Thankfully at the moment she is feeling well, but who knows how that will change once the treatment starts. I'm lucky to have the ability to work from home so I will be using that advantage to help her and spend more time with her. I do want to have a lovely chat on her stories from before us. I have a terrible memory for details, so I hope she will let me record our chats. Even if it's just audio. She has so many photos of before us, I would love to go through them and learn who is who before it's too late. Hopefully she will feel up for these chats. Obviously we will work with how she feels. What mom wants, mom will get ❤️ She wants a family holiday in the new year with us all, so once we know how the treatment effects her, we will be organising it right away. Is it silly that I imagine life after she passes, or imagine the moment it happens? It's hard, but I hope it helps even a little for the moment it happens... I am focused on the here and now and the good times as much as possible. I just can't help but imagine my little boy's first day at school and she isn't there. Or Christmas at home without her. She's such an anchor not only for us , her children, but also for her sisters. Her passing is going to hit so many people so hard...

Hello, My mom has been battling skin cancer for over 4 years. She got an all clear once, but it came back. Heartbreakingly, she received the news on Monday that it has spread to her liver, lymph nodes and abdomen. It is now stage 4 and she is now on limited time. She is only 66 and she is the most wonderful person. She does everything for everyone, and it's so unfair that this has happened to her... I'm trying to come to terms that I'm going to lose my mom far sooner in my life than I thought... My toddler not getting to know his amazing nana who adores him breaks my heart. It might be months. It might be years. But what's for certain is that if she is still with us in 2 years, we would be very, very lucky... I'm posting here both to talk about it, and to hope that maybe someone can help me with tips on how to mentally and emotionally prepare the best that I can for when the day comes. Thank you.