So, I'm here looking for advice/mental tools/personal examples from people with vaginas. I've got some SERIOUS mental issues surrounding sex, specifically vaginal penetration. When I was 11 years old, I got curious about sex and snuck onto the computer to look up porn. I still didn't have an understanding of how exactly sex worked yet, so THAT was my sex ed. It was already jarring enough to find out that sex (traditionally) is a penis going into a vagina; That alone was making me very concerned and nervous about how THAT was supposed to fit in THERE. But then I saw some upsetting, violent animated porn where the woman was clearly in pain, and that just...scarred me, severely. It left an impression that penetration of any kind is painful, and I remember crossing my legs and SWEARING to myself that I was NEVER letting anything go in my vagina. Obviously nowadays, I know sex isn't SUPPOSED to be painful for those with vaginas, and that first time penetration, when done right, should only be a bit uncomfortable at first, not PAINFUL. But while I understand the concept, my brain still isn't catching up. I'm practically 28 now, and I've never had sex, never fingered myself, never used tampons, nothing. I definitely WANT to, but every time I've ever tried, I trigger a severe panic attack and make myself nauseous. I AM currently seeing a therapist for this, and we've been working through a lot of stuff, and I know it takes time to sort through years of trauma. We've been doing some journaling and DBT exercises, and they're helping a bit, but I'm still experiencing a bit of anxiety and nausea even just doing Kegel exercises. I wanted to come on here to try and get some anonymous perspective. Vagina-havers, what were your experiences with first time penetration? Was there any discomfort or pain, and if so, how bad was it? Did you have any lingering fears of penetration? If so, how did you work through it/get over it? I feel like if I heard others experiences, it would give me better perspective and help me sort through my trauma better.