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Thank you. That was kind of u to say.

I have a daughter in college and an 11th grader. They work and get straight As. Very independent. Bought their own cars with their own money. I just pay for their insurance and med insurance, etc. My girlfriend wants to buy her daughter a car when she turns 16. I'm not subsidizing that. Nor her 15 year old daughter's Australian vacation and vacation to Japan next summer. Enough is enough.

Agreed

Who knows. I really don't know. She has another property overseas that she collects rent from a well. She isn't struggling. Greed is the only answer.

To follow up -does she rent out part of her living space such that you living there means she cannot do that? No. The two kids share a room. Then there is a master. Kitchen. Open living room/dining room. two bathrooms. About 1300sq ft

I will move. That is certain. Her terms are unreasonable and unfair. She asked me if I can't afford 1300 because I'm having financial issues. I had to chuckle. I dodged a bullet. The crazy thing is that I have substantial resources. Little does she know and thankfully she doesn't. I spend wisely.

Her compromise is now 1300. I have broken down the costs and presented the costs to her, but she is set on this figure without really explaining her rationale behind it.

That's why I think it's good to live together before moving to another level. I didn't think I was being unreasonable. That is why I decided to ask others what they thought. I was going to rent another place, but she came up with the idea of me moving in. Something she had talked about for some time. I have no issue splitting costs. Either proportionally or some other fair way. There are lots of methods. There is more than enough money to live well and save, etc. I was just shocked by her proposed figures. The bottom line is you really don't know people until it comes to $.

As far as food expenses. She originally wanted me to pay 300 per month because she said she spends 1200 per month on food and that each mouth costs $300 for food because she buys organic only. So my share would be 1/4. I was shocked that she asked me this. I said no. Then she wanted $300 per month to put into a fund for future trips, eating out and gifts for holidays, etc. I said no Prior, I rented a house, but the owner raised the rent $500 per month suddenly. She wanted me to move in with her. My thought was this would work and we could save for a dp to buy a larger house in the future. Which is very easy to do. She also talks a lot about my finances and wants me to be "transparent" and share my information with her, which I will not unless we are married. Little does she know that I'm very financially stable. I just thought she was the one and eventually she would learn. I'd like to get a house with my partner.

The hoa includs gas, water and internet. The thing is she eats or the times per week. Shops at whole foods three x per week. Shops constantly for clothes. Her kids each have private instrument teachers at 60 per hour each. The eldest of going to Australia and Japan next summer. I just think it sucks that I didn't see this earlier.

Background. My girlfriend has two children ages 10 and 15. She has a condo with two bedrooms.she makes about 120,000 per year. She also gets about $2,300 per month in child support and alimony. I make roughly the same amount as her. 120,000. I also have a daughter who is 16 who lives with her mother. I pay no child support because her mother makes far more than me. Girlfriend's mortgage is $750 and her HOA is 600. I am currently living with her. At first she wanted me to pay $2,100 per month. I obviously said no and she asked for 1500. I said no to that and I'm now paying $1,000 per month. She's upset about this and would like me to pay 1300. I have only been living with her for 2 months. Usually when I come home from work they have already eaten and she makes a big deal about leaving any food for me to eat. I'll explained to her that I think it would be more than fair if I paid for half of the living expenses, even with her having two children and receiving 2300 in child support. I don't really get along with my sisters. She even had the nerve to tell me that she understands why my sisters don't like me because I am cheap for not paying for what she wants. After my divorce it was very hard on me mentally and I am pretty anxious and somewhat depressed often even though I came out on top financially. You would think that someone who cares about you or you thought cared about you would be more understanding. My ex-wife was incredibly abusive and conniving. Totally ripped me off for years . I feel like my girlfriend is turning out to be similar. I didn't notice this type of behavior early on. What should I do? I'm actually taking a long walk alone right now because I don't really have anyone to talk about this with. I gave my girlfriend the $1,000 for rent and after she counted it she just went on a rampage today. I feel so stupid.