Hello! I need some advice about a guy I was seeing. We met online off a dating app a little over a month ago. Before we met, it seemed like he really wanted to get to know me. We would text and facetime quite often, learn about each other, and he really stood out from the rest. He owned his own business, was very spiritual and seemed to be very knowledgeable and open about mental health. We talked over the phone for 2 weeks and then we finally met up. He lives 2 hours away so this is why it took longer to meet. When we met in person, we spent the whole day together. It was definitely unlike any other date I had been on. He planned out a great day together and took me out to a nice dinner to end the day. He was very chivalrous, kind, and seemed very genuine. He said he was looking for something serious and long term and said he was all about open communication. Over the month that I was dating him, we would frequently spend entire weekend days together. I met his kids and his friends. We got very close. The last time I saw him, we went on a camping trip together. It was a lot of fun, and we got even closer. He kept referring to other things we could do in the future. It was definitely nearing the "What are we?" question.
I do realise all of this happened pretty fast. I usually do take things more slow. But- everything seemed so right and effortless, and we were spending a lot of time together. I did notice some red flags, but I didn't put much thought into them. It was that he would sometimes brag about how many women wanted him, or about the past women he dated. He also complained about his ex wife and his previous relationships too which I thought was odd. Anyway, after the camping trip he got extremely distant. He didn't text me at all which was very unlike him. I reached out a few days later to ask to meet up again in a few weeks and he said he "might be out of town" and that he would "let me know in a few days". I kind of got the hint at that point that something was up, so I totally left the ball in his court to do just that. He didn't talk to me at all in the meantime, but was active on social media viewing and liking my posts. He ended up never letting me know if he could see me. He never texted me again actually. I found that very disrespectful. To make matters worse, he went on another camping trip with a girl that weekend and posted them together online. He knew I could see. He still even had the audacity to view and like my posts after he did that too. The girl he was seeing is the entire opposite of me. She has an Only Fans (no hate to people who do that), and is very popular on social media.
This made me feel terrible. I have no idea what went wrong. He turned out to be the exact opposite of what he showed me. I thought he would have more respect for me to at least let me know he wasn't interested, but apparently not. I have since blocked him from my social media. I'm just confused about the whole thing.
