Thank you for the replies again.
Some info:
we were v close friends for 5 years
I left her city 10 years ago
i haven’t seen her for about 5 years or spoken or her on the phone for the same time.
However, we have stayed in touch via WhatsApp all those years and send each other birthday and Xmas cards. Sometimes we can go 5 months without context.
However, I did expect she would reach out after I had my baby with even a message or a card. I know I would have with her.
Maybe I’m expecting too much and the ‘friendship’ means more to me than her.
Anyhow, it’s time for me to pull back…