SamJaxon

Nope, she really ghosted me on the 2nd time she rescheduled the date. Maybe she won't reached out to me at all if I didn't text her the next few days, telling her that I was waiting for her reaching out to me. And yeah you're right, I had too much expectations on her but I didn't mean to play any kind of games, passive-aggresive thingy with her. I need to do that to maintain personal boundaries and self-respect.

Sure thing, thanks!

Thanks, I used to think I would date her, since she asked for it first (suddenly after she rejected so many of my invitations before), but since she also ghosted me when the time came and she kept flaking, I had to set boundaries by flaking back on her. She didn't respect my time because I think she's not prioritizing me enough for the potential relationship. Will try to move on (again) but I guess wouldn't blocking / deleting her.

A good point, well I told her a narc, It's not because of me getting disappointed cause she didn't seem to reciprocate my feelings, it was just my slight criticism to her recent activities on her social media that time, she posted selfies too much lol. Guess she can't handle it, and I knew it was my fault, because I realized I showed some insecurities and jealousy there. In the end I apologized though, I explained to her that I didn't mean to insult or everything. I apologized so many times. But she asked me to leave. I accepted it. During the no contact period, which I applied it to myself (because I tried to move on) I caught she always stalked my activities on my social media, watched all of my stories and always liked my posts, while I never did that, because she asked me to leave (you got that one) and I really had no idea why she did that. Maybe just orbiting?

Yeah I know it's my fault, anyway we met, talked and shared a lot before, Anyway I'm just reminiscing the good times we had, so if you'd like to know the details and if that's what you mean by spending times together. We've also shared our dreams together. But there was a time when she became distant and she giving me cold shoulders, the day when I criticized her behavior and showed some jealousy, she thought I'm a controlling person, I told her that she's a narcissistic person, she mad at me, and she said I hurt her so bad, I had no idea why she got hurt that much if I, maybe misjudged her as a narcissist, I didn't intend to hurt her though, but then I apologized so many times and she didn't forgive me that time, instead she asked me to leave and look for another woman. So we didn't communicate to each other for around 5 months, until I came back again, reached out to her again because I missed her, until she forgave me. Things went well again and this happened. Well I guess she only friendzoned me in the end, and I fell in love with the wrong person. It's just, I had too much expectations with this woman before.

Thanks for the reply, really appreciate it, and yeah you're right, maybe I would had a fun date with her if I reached out to her and not overthinking about it, but I didn't intend to play any games with her, really, and the truth is ; I had already confessed my feeling to her, probably a year ago, sorry I didn't mention it before on my main topic, my bad. And she neither rejected me or accepted me at that time, idk why, maybe she hasn't moved on yet from her ex, or maybe she wasn't ready to be in a relationship yet. Even she ever asked me for the second chance to know me better. Long story short, we had some ups and downs before, we ever argued, a lot, we also had moment of "cut contact" to each other for more than 5 months maybe. But finally I reached out to her again, I kept trying because I really love her, without she knowing that, that's why these whole "fresh start" dating things with her make me analyze more of her attitude, her actions and moves towards me.

Thanks for the reply, well as you have known it, I didn't intend to play any games with her, personally, I didn't have that much self-esteem to reach out to her to confirm, since she had rejected my date invitations, so many times before. I had to do that to set my boundaries I guess, not to play any kind of games. That's why I asked here if I did the right thing, I still have hope for her actually.

Yeah, it's a harsh and sad reality, just wondering why in the first place, why she asked me out if she's not interested, did she do that on purpose to let me down gently?

Thanks for the reply, yeah, I thought the same thing, she didn't respect my time, that's why I did that to her. And sure, I will disengage from her, but I hope she learned a lesson, I don't hold any grudges and will always be cordial with her btw.

Thanks for the reply, well I didn't try to play any games with her. I didn't reach out to her to see whether she's really intented to see me or not, knowing that she had rejected my invitations so many times before.

Yes, we've met so many times before, she's actually a friend in some working communities. Guess I won't delete or block her, it makes me look like so unprofessional. But yeah you're right, no one is "too busy" if they're interested. Time to walk away then.

The woman who had rejected my invitations before finally asked me out. Was so happy but then she flaked, she said she was sick, and I knew it was true, she posted a pict of her condition on her Instagram, she apologized and she rescheduled the date for the next week and I said ok. I also checked up on her few times to show her that I care for her. One week later, she didn't reach out to me when the time came. I didn't reach out to her too because I want to see if she's also interested in seeing me or not. Knowing that she had rejected my invitation many times before. And it turns out she ghosted me, and I assumed she isn't interested. I was so disappointed. So I reached out to her a few days later, I texted her that I was waiting for her to reach out to me on that day. She apologized, she said she was tired after hanging out with her friends, later she tried to reschedule and she set another date. I left her on read. How could she do that to me? She planned to see me, ghosted me and hung out with her friends? And she texted me again one day later, tried to reschedule the date AGAIN because she wanted to attend her friend's birthday on the date she suggested before. Again, I left her on read. She flaked on me 3 times already. Then finally the time has come, she texted me again and asked "are we still on today?" I finally replied to her "sorry I can't make it today, I have to go back to the office, my boss called me, maybe next time, thanks for letting me know" She replied with a smile emoji only. I was kinda upset with her so I flaked on her back. And I didn't suggest rescheduling too. Did I do the right thing? Thanks.