Adriana

Maybe I just don’t understand why he would initiate a video chat? Wouldn’t that be something that fake people would avoid. If I had agreed to it and it didn’t happen the outcome would not be the same and I’d get more sus. But because I said no and he disappeared it just seemed as though he got annoyed. That is the impression that I am getting at least.

Hey everyone thank you so much for taking the time to read my situation and for replying. I appreciate everyone not being too harsh as I feel like a complete *** lol. As for the videos I am not too worried as I sent them via Snapchat and there was no notification that be saved it to the camera roll. Unless he did it right before he blocked me. But yes I hope they won’t resurface anywhere but luckily I did not show my face. I feel like I also have to explain that I believe I liked him too much due to his outer appearance. He was a very good looking dude IMO and I think I wanted to please him too much and my judgment was clouded. I also liked the attention he showed even though I understand it was the wrong type of attention. I don’t think I am lacking any companionship as i am happy and fine to be single but again his looks had taken over any self respect. The way that everyone is seeing it from a similar perspective honestly makes me feel better but also an idiot haha. I was very convinced he was not a bad dude he was maybe just into some weird *** that he was honest about? Anyways reading this all back Im embarrassed by the control and it was not a safe or healthy situation to be in. I enjoyed talking to him during normal convos and I hadn’t shown interest in someone like that in a while which also felt like a good thing and ignored the rest. But anywho I have learned my lesson and will not make content like that ever again. Thanks again everyone

Yes I had questioned that a few times and asked him but he has sent voice notes and has wanted to video chat a couple times.

To be honest I believe I was very hyper focused on his looks that I was trying too hard to please him. Even though I did state I had boundaries and when he didn’t like that, I was afraid he’d lose interest so I just gave in to it. Which I see now that that was stupid but at that time it wasn’t a big deal in my head. Sadly my age is not the age that I could possibly get away with being naive which is makes it more embarrassing lol.

Hello. I would like some insight about a situation that just happened recently. I matched with a guy on Bumble about a month ago and we exchanged snap chats after about a week of texting. We did most of our communication on there. The chatting had been going really well and at one point he said he was interested in this becoming more and he was not currently sleeping with anyone. I said I would like that as well. He is a very sexually forward person and does bring up sex a lot and asks for photos and videos. I usually oblige because I don’t mind providing those photos. Two weeks ago his account got deactivated so we hadn’t spoken but he admitted that he got a bj from someone during the time we didn’t speak. I said I thought you weren’t seeing anyone but he said that it he didn’t sleep with her. I told him that to me it’s the same and that makes me uncomfortable. Then he suggested he will stay away from her to make me happy. I was happy to hear that. But then the convo went south and he asked for a sexual video that I’m not usually comfortable doing. He said that I was boring and not open to anything. He has also asked to video chat but to watch him ejaculate and I’ve said I’m kinda shy and we hadn’t met yet. I said I have boundaries and to please understand that. He said sure. The following day he said I’m not interested anymore because you are not open to anything. I caved and said ok I will try harder to make you happy. After that we had been chatting a lot and I felt I was finally getting to know him and he said at one point I’m sorry I saw someone else I have to do much better for you. Sometimes we chat all day and when I ask questions about him and what’s hes looking for he appears to be honest and responds quickly. He also constantly asks for videos and photos of sexual things and there are some that is so out of my comfort zone but I still try to do them. Then on Monday we were talking about threesomes and that he wanted to do one. I asked if he had done them and he said yes with an ex gf and he showed me a photo of her. I got jealous and asked why he still has old photos and he said he just found it. I said that’s sus. He said im only focused on you and that you don’t need to be suspicious of me. I apologized and said I won’t ask about the past anymore but I liked his honesty. Then later that night at around 1am he asked to video chat to watch him ejaculate. I was very tired and not in the mood and tried to ask to hold off til tmrw. He did not answer and blocked me on Snapchat the next morning. I am very upset and hurt by this move as I really liked him. I think he got to a point where he was fed up and blocked me because I said no to video chat again. I really regret not doing it that night. So my question is did I really mess up?