My husband and I have been married for almost two years and for the last few months my husband can’t seem to get it together with his finances . First off let me start off to say that I am pretty much taking care of him . I pay the entire rent , all the other bills such as Internet and Cable , car note , car insurance , cable , AND food and toiletries while he pays for Nothing for these past several months
I’m getting frustrated because my husband doesn’t want help out . He feels since J make much more money than he does I should carry the bills of the household . Now granted , he drives for Lyft rideshare full time and drive for Uber at one point , but got fired from Uber due to customer complaints Yet He claims he doesn’t make that much money but when I try to suggest other employment he automatically shuts down the conversation .
Whenever I try to suggest other employment or even start his own business . He basiclaly tells me he will not work a normal 9to 5 , because it’s not “Gods purpose “ and he will not be confined to a work schedule and to add he tells me that because I am not a fully obedient wife he will not work hard to support me .
When I ask him what does he mean by “obdient “ he just goes on to say “I do not obey “ and I do not do every single thing he tells me to do “.
In his opinion , He feels we should downsize , Andlive in a cheap hotel in the area or an RV , or out in the woods or something so we don’t have to pay rent and he has even suggested living in a car which I refuse .
In addition , He refuses to tell me how much money he makes , and or the bills he has to pay every month So I really have no idea , how much money he makes from Lyft and or the bills he pays on a monthly basis and or the reason for the issues with his finances .I don’t have access to his bank accounts / debit cards / credit cards and when I ask him he shuts Me down and refuses to show me any bank statements or pay check stubs .
One of my dreams is to buy a home , he basically told me he Is not sure if he can contribute to the mortgage every month so to make sure when I do buy a home to make sure only I can pay the mortgage on my own and without his help because his income is not stable .
Our marriage is on its last leg standing . I can’t depend on him anymore to do his part . He just lies and make promises he refuses to keep . As of six months ago , he just aburptly stopped paying half the rent ., plus he doesn’t help with the car note , not even the insurance , groceries or toiletries , nothing at all . He drives the car more than I do .. yet he doesn’t give me any money towards the car in a while . Over a year it’s been since he had given me type of money towards the maintenance and or the car note , and he’s the one driving it all day to work to do rideshare , while I work two jobs to keep us afloat .He doesn’t contribute financially like he should , and to add insult Injury we haven’t had sex in over eight months!! . I don’t know what to do!!. Should I stay or hang in there with him until he tries to better himself ?
Plus on top of everything else , I recently just found out he has been lying to me all this time about where he grew up , where he went to High school , and his educational background . I’m just so shocked and can’t believe I m in this situation . And he has been flirting with other women .
