I called him last night and confessed to him, sadly while crying. I asked how he saw me all this time and he admitted in all the years we've known each other since college, we didn't spend enough time for him get feelings for me.
When we texted we were both very vulnerable to each other and he told me things he never told to anyone. He used to call me cute lots of times, was very nice and kind to me, never forgot my birthday and nameday, affectionate on his good days and wanted to come visit my city one day. I really thought we had a connection.
He was very cold and detached all the way through, like he was in hurry. Before I called him I send him a message and he seemed very hesitant and worried to accept it, asking to write instead. I told him there's something that I can't simply write. When he called me, he seemed really anxious and not okay, I tried to set a light mood, asking how his day was but I could feel him not being in the mood to talk.
After the rejection, he told me that he had relationships that lasted days only. He's not ready to date, he's not ready for a relationship, he needs time to move on, he's very stressed.
Before this call, we hanged out for the first time in years and he was all awkward, nervous and fidgety around me. I saw that he wanted to hold my hand but gave up. He payed for my drink and took me to the place where he usually hangs out and plays board games.
I really cared about him and still do. But I will give him space, remain friends and move on.
Why is he so scared of me? Is he hiding his feelings from me?