nublu2

Thank you for your feedback. I have tried to talk to her about it in the past but generally her response is focused on the sexual aspect and she just claims that it is a 'woman thing' that they don't need it the same way men do. But that doesn't explain the lack of intimacy and romance as well. Doing some reading, I have come to suspect that she is likely asexual and aromantic. So no, I don't think she is missing anything from the relationship. She is probably quite happy the way it is. And that is the most difficult part.

I've been in a long term relationship that has otherwise been relatively normal, although looking back, the intimacy and romance drastically declined over the years. Declined to the point of nonexistence more recently. For quite some time I have just put up with it but I don't feel like I can do that anymore. Life still seems "normal" but I don't feel like there is anything left in the relationship for me. We are just friends, but I feel like I am missing so much. I would really love to find a woman that I can love and romance and please in so many ways, and have the same for me, but I feel like that will never happen now. It's not like I am expecting some fairytale romance... But wow! Would some romance ever be nice! Just somebody to make me feel good being around her. And hopefully me doing the same for her. Still trying to figure out if it is better to keep the "normal" life and being a sad, lonely guy. Or doing something drastic and perhaps still being alone anyway. Feels like a tough position to be in when just looking for love.