Ronnie90

UPDATE He suddenly started liking my social post again after NC. I know this is very little effort but it triggered me. I reached out to ask for a meet up and a drink and he agreed (he turned it down mid december) although his texting is very slow (like sometimes 10+ hrs to reply). I know I have to carefull but wanted to give an update here.

Thanks for this. I'm not that experienced with dating yet so I take this as a learning with me.

Sounds a little bit the same although the affection part was not a problem in my case. We didn't have sex every time we saw each other (which I see as a good thing) put there was a lot of touching and physical stuff. Now, some years later; did you see why it felt apart? Or is it still guessing for you?

Thanks catfeeder. This is a good advice. It hurts a lot now but next time I will handle somebody with a recent break up with more cautiousness to avoid this in the future.

I hear what you say and we both spoke during our dates that we are going really fast but we agreed "as long as it feels good why should we slow down.". So think there is no party to blame here and that we both 'speedrun' it.... And next time indeed, I will take it slower. Lesson learned...

I get this feeling indeed more and more of a rebound. And how bad it hurts right now; you're advice is indeed the lesson I'm taking with me for future dating. I felt really hard for this guy in a short amount of time...

I (26M) was dating a guy (27M) I met on Tinder for just under 2 months. Started in mid October. Things went great, we agreed exclusive dating after date 4, spent 2/3 nights a week together, met each others friends, made Christmas plans, met his parents and 1,5 week before BU we booked a trip to Paris after Christmas. He told me he really liked me and was excited for the future. Untill 3 weeks ago. He stood at my doorstep and told me he wants to break up because he feels suffocated and not ready for a new relationship (he broke up with his ex after 3 years in June). I asked him if it will help to slow things down a bit. He asked 3 days to think about it but stood by his decision eventually. We are in NC now. I am so hurt and can’t stop thinking about it. Anyone had a same experience? What happened? TL;DR: met someone on Tinder. Things went great. Exclusive dating. Suddenly BU because felt suffocated and not ready.