reggierags

Well we weren't hammered until the end (4 shots). Mostly couple of beers and a lot of food the first 5 hours or so. I think it's because we got to know each other that we bonded to the point of too much alcohol

Well it was her idea, all three times. And it was fun, and I we did get to know each other. Of course, it's certainly not the best way to do so I know she likes art classes and keeps talking about that. She knows I'm in one with my sister

Well she told me she would never cheat and never gets involved with guys too quick. I take her at face value She hasn't gone on about her ex. Only on that day complaining about her sex life and last week saying her therapist was shocked. No more than that really. She hasn't vented, besides venting about work from time to time Do I feel she's in the right mindset? I do, but again I take her at face value. She has rough days with her meds but she said she's always been this way

You're so right about impaired state. It was a fun night but something we should repeat only if we're together. As it is we got too personal for friends I think You think that could be why she has ghosted our getting high hangouts? And just wants me to ask her on a real date? As I mentioned before I think, the day before that planned hangout she mentioned she wanted to go to this place but it was too expensive. I believe, believe, she said go with me, and I immediately said Iets go I'll pay no worries. But connected it with out getting high hangout, as in let's go after that. She was very distant today at work and it's really starting to affect me not knowing anything well. I should probably just ask her out properly on a date, with time and place like you said right? Either that or forget about her but that seems difficult right now She also mentioned how she doesn't like regular dates like dinner or movies so I gotta come up with something good. Then again I like that she told me that, gotta be good no?

I'm decent to her and would certainly not overstep my bounds, but she keeps reaching out at work, more than she did before and still flirting. I don't know her perfectly but from what she's told me before and after her breakup, she's not the type for a rebound. Maybe she lied, who knows, but that's the impression she's given me

No like when she says she wants to go eat at this place or go to this exhibit or wants to smoke and watch a fun movie. When she wants that and mentions is directly to me, should I ignore it and tell her sure it's a date or something like that?

I'm bad at this, can you just tell me? I've been ignored/rejected before but not by someone who keeps wanting to have contact with me and keeps a flirtatious tone

Ok stay in my lane, sure, leave her alone, sure. But, she keeps reaching out to me, whether to chit chat and random flirt or walk her home. I'm sure at some point she will again say she wants to go somewhere or outright invite me. What do I do then? Be more direct asking what her want or reject her?

The whole picture is odd, that's the thing. If she was just ignoring me then great, but she keeps making plans with me, keeps looking at me for long period, keeps asking me to walk her home...and at the same time not answering texts for days. It's a very bent picture that I can't read

I guess that's possible, but she used to behave like this before they even broke up, now it's just more. I will give her space though, if she wants something I guess she'll let me know? I am asking cause I'm clueless..

Not just when she's drunk but in general. Making random plans, coming into my work area for no reason, staring intently at each other when we're all in a group today she again asked me to walk her home but didn't say a word about what happened over the weekend I dunno about the chase, since I usually avoid that ***, but deep down who knows right? I've never had an interaction like this type of drama, no. Most of my relationships and hookups are because the other person initiates it, just like she's done now. I'm terrible at reading people and often don't even realize they want something. Hence why I'm here

I do feel it grew, though, as we've been closer than ever since, albeit hot and cold depending on the day

I mean when she said that we had plans to go to her house the next day. And like I said she got a bad fever the next day. However that wasn't a date. If she says something like that again should I just specify I want to take her on a date?

Well not ideal but at least I would know what is happening, right now I'm at a loss. Do you think I should just tell her "can we talk?" I mean communication is above everything

I got it, yeah. I wanna ask her out because I feel like our relationship grew that night, but has stayed dormant since due to not doing anything together other than talking at work, walking her home and a bit of texting here and there. Like I want to know, or wait till she is in a better place, but then risk losing what we had that day

tread cautiously as in wait or forget her? I see her everyday and she talks to me, we make plans, kinda hard to just forget her without being rude what do you think about plainly asking out on a date to forget the awkwardness?

why would she then just cool off then? :l

Oh the hot flashes was because she was gonna throw up. Not sure if that was the right term though. Yeah I can tell she has issues, I'm kinda used to that and usually attract them, but of course I gotta be careful. In the end I really like her though, especially becasue she continues to choose me like she has. But then her radio silences make me doubt

Thanks for your answer! So you think she'd be receptive yo a proper date based on this? A week after going out? You're right about the drugs. We've made no plans to do that again though and should probably avoid it while we get to know each other more

Sorry if it's a long post but this is starting to affect me and I'm not sure how to either move forward or forget about it I'm a guy, she's a girl, we're both 31, we work together though she is planning on leaving and it's not a serious job for either. We've known each other for a while and have been flirting a bit here and there until the past two weeks when she literally just said she broke up with her boyfriend asked me out for a drink after work She said it was one of the best nights ever and she was happy to finally get to know the mysterious me. She found excuses to touch my hair, beard, nose many times, bump our hips together, let me feed fries in her mouth. We ended up at her apartment though nothing happened, way too drunk. She gave me a tour, took me to her bedroom then her bed though soon she was nauseous and asked me to get her an ice pack, when I came back her shirt was almost off because she was having hot flashes I guess, and was just lying face down suffering. I left after a while She's confided in me about her mental health, including things like her therapist being surprised she broke up with her ex. Tells me about bad sex life they had and how she's just looking for more of a connection On many days I walk her from work to her house because she's asked if I could, that's how we became friends, but this Friday she changed it to "do you wanna walk me home?" with a big smile, hard to say no to that. She also mentioned in passing that she wanted to go somewhere with me the next day but is having money problems. There are some bad or maybe iffy things, like calling me her friend, then again that's what we were (are?). She's had a rough week with the hangover, meds chemical imbalance, a bad fever, among other things. She's thanked me for supporting her so much this week and being a great friend, even sending me a good morning text and another one where she was grateful I'm always checking in on her. But overall she barely texts and has long radio silence periods, like since yesterday. We had plans to hang at her house, not exactly a date yeah, but she said "I woke up with a really bad fever 😞 ". She didn't answer to what I wrote and I'm guessing I'll just see her tomorrow at work. Her phone says last seen since she sent me that message. The plans were he idea btw, I just re-confirmed them I really like her but like I said not being sure where we stand is starting to affect me a lot. Neither of us wants kids, we're in the same stage in our lives, we like drugs, both areligious, and I love how open she is with me and makes me open. She doesn't seem to have problems getting in my personal space such as when we're all in a group she comes right next to me even if she wasn't close. While I don't do that very much on the other hand, I try but it's hard for me. Perhaps she is looking for that though. Should I just ask her out and tell her I want to take her out on a date? Or first have a conversation with her? Perhaps hold her hand or something cause I know I haven't been very physical and I would hate it if that pulls her away 😞 She recently broke up with that guy and I broke up with someone three months ago. I know I'm good, she says she's good but hers is so more recent. I'm afraid of overstepping my bounds. Anyway, thanks for listening. Any advice is deeply appreciated.