lonelyheartsclub

he’s 40 😞

We were together against the wishes of the majority of my friends and family due to the age gap. I’m 20 and he is He was always nice and very attentive, but I ended things very abruptly because he had never disclosed he had children and an (ex??) wife. He has not left me alone since then, using my coworkers as messengers as one of them also works as his employee also. He’s left expensive jewelry at work, money, and uses his employee that i work with to talk to me. She recently just told me his mother had a serious medical problem and that he wanted to hang out just as friends to take his mind off of things. I declined because I don’t think it’s possible for me personally to be friends with an ex, but i’ve felt nothing but guilt and feel like i’m ignoring someone in a time of need even though he ***ed me over for six months and made me a nonconsensual mistress. My roommate wants me to get a restraining order, but i think that is entirely too dramatic. I really don’t know what to do, as moving on is difficult while I work with so many people who are friends with him. I honestly still have feelings for him and genuinely miss him despite everything, but I understand this relationship was never healthy and my boundaries will not allow myself to get back together with him. Am I going to have to find a new job?