TinaP777

Thanks for all the advice. Everyone. You have all given me a lot to think about. Based on everything I've heard here, it seems like it would be pointless for me to tell on him. No one is going to believe me cuz I kept hanging out with him. I now realize how stupid that was. The problem is my bf is really pissed about all of this and HE wants me to tell on him. He also doesn't want me to see this guy anymore, even if other people are around. But I believe in forgiving people and don't want to be the kind of person that hates all men because of one bad experience. What should I do???

Yes, now I understand that. But at the time I trusted him because he had stuck up for me in the past when other guy friends of mine tried to get fresh with me. He had also helped me out a lot in the past. I now realize he only stuck up for me because he wanted to do the same thing himself. But at the time I thought he truly cared about me and his raping me was just the result of his lack of self-control. I felt he was trying to stop but that he was simply unable to help himself. So I figured it would eventually stop but it didn't and now I realize I was wrong not to tell my bf, which would have ended it then and there. It WAS bad judgement on my part. I honestly felt my friend was a true one and not like other guys who only want you for sex. But now I realize he is no better than any one else. I am not sure I would say 'assaulted', but I did have an older stepbrother who would constantly try to get me to have sex with him whenever our parents weren't home. He was 18 and I was 14, and it went on till he moved out like 2 years ago. He never actually tried to rape me but he would constantly try to get me to be his 'girlfriend' and he would get feely with me. He also would take video of me on his phone when I was in my underwear or in a bikini. I never told our parents about it because I was afraid of what my dad might do to him.

Well, first he pressured me, but then when I say 'no' he will just keep going and not stop. It would start with him putting his hands up my shirt and down my shorts when we were tickle fighting. I would be like 'hey!' and then he would say he can't help it cuz I'm so hot. Then he would kiss me and I'd tell him to cut it out but he wouldn't. He would make it out like I 'owed' him sex because I got him so turned on. I would keep trying to get him to tone it down but he would eventually take off my clothes and start raping me. I never fought him because he's bigger than me and so I didn't know what to do. The next day he would always apologize and because I don't have that many friends I would forgive him and still hang out with him. But now that he is lying about us I realize what a pos he really is and I'm not talking to him anymore. And now I feel like he is going to get away with causing me and my bf to break up. Although me and my bf are still trying to work it out. I think he is starting to realize I'm telling the truth and he wants me to report this guy. At first I didn't want to, but now I realize that not telling on him and defending him to my bf makes it look like l wanted it, when I absolutely did not. Right now I'm not sure if I should tell my parents or just call some number.

Well he has been a good friend of mine for a long time and has stuck up for me many times. But I do not consider him a friend anymore after what he told my bf. I didn't report him because I THOUGHT he was a good friend and a good person, like I said he was there for me many times. So I "forgave" him for what he was doing. He said he was sorry but he couldn't help himself and I believed him. I don't want to ditch my bf because I love hm very much. I am thinking of telling on my friend though since now he's lying about us. I have not yet told my parents and am not sure who to go to right now. My own bf doesn't believe me so I have no one for support. Yes for 2 months he was making me have sex with him. I told him no but he insisted. He said he was really horny and he couldn't help himself. I would tell him no but he would not let up. He convinced me it was all my fault because of what I was wearing or because I was flirting with him and I believed him so I didn't feel comfortable telling on him. And I didn't want to tell my bf because I was afraid he would break up with me. I now see that I was confused and that my friend was manipulating me and so I want to tell on him but right now I'm just concerned about my bf not believing me. He has been through a lot lately and now he is so upset because he thinks I cheated. Do you think I should tell my parents? I really don't feel comfortable telling anyone I know about this, that is why I came here. My bf is 21, I am 19. My friend is 20. I would never falsely accuse anyone. Yes, I hung out a lot with my friend and I admit I do flirt a lot, but he was never my bf. I did not think of him that way. But he was a good friend until he started taking advantage of me. He also said he was sorry for what he was doing but he couldn't help himself and I believed him. So I "forgave" him for what he was doing and decided it was best to just act like nothing was happening. I now realize this was wrong but now the damage is done.

So I could really use some advice right now. I’m very depressed and don’t know what to do. I have been with my bf for 3 years and I love him very much. He is the best bf I’ve ever had and will do anything for me, I even felt he was my soulmate and we would eventually get married. But now he thinks I cheated and I’m not sure what to do. What happened is that my best guy friend started making me have sex with him like 2 months ago. I didn’t want to and I told him ‘no’ and he knows I have a bf, but he said he couldn’t help himself and that I had to let him have sex with me because I was teasing him. Because I have been in this situation before I didn’t think to tell anyone, especially not my bf. But last week I finally stood up to him and told him I was going to tell on him if he didn’t stop. So he did. The next day my friend asked me to forgive him and because I felt sorry for him I did. I decided the best thing to do was to just act like it never happened and put it behind me. I continued hanging with this guy who raped me and continued to keep it secret even from my bf. Then a few days ago my bf told me that one of my friends told him that me and this guy were dating!!! I don’t know why she would do this other than me and this guy hang out a lot together and I admit I do flirt a lot so maybe she got the wrong impression. When my bf asked me about it I told him nothing happened and that this guy was a pretender who always wanted to have me as a gf but I rejected him (which in a way is true). So my bf went and asked my friend why he would lie that he’s dating me when he isn’t. My friend told him that we were sleeping together and that he could prove it. Now my bf thinks I cheated on him and I don’t know what to do. Please help!