Quebecer1974

Today I write because again she is behind in school. She promised this semester would be different. Yesterday was a day we would be together and reconnect after 3 big fights. We fought 3 times last week and I told her I need us to get close. In reality I am feeling distant and neglected and alone. She also mentions breaking up when I push my boundries ( keeping apt clean, making time for us). She said this week she had a lot with school but she would be organized. She bought my birthday gift 20 days after my birthday and wrapped it before I got home. I get home I see the big box and she kisses me quickly and runs to the room for something she needs to finish asap. I wait 30m and she is done she says. No problem i think. It's 8:30pm. We open my gift; expensive $500! Ok I'm happy but a bit surprised she spent so much money and waited 3 weeks. She had an entrée which I ended up preparing. And she tells me the fun plan of the night. She says we will have the entrée, have sex, eat if we are still hungry... and she goes to the room to check an email and now tells me she has to do some new thing now ...she asks me, can we begin at 10pm?; I say ok fine but are you sure you will be free? "Yes I promise". I wait and 10pm and she arrives...with a worried and stressed face and talking like a sad baby which she does a lot ( like a baby voice)..I'm so behind I'm stressed...can we have our time tommorow; baby understand. I told her my disappointment and she started defending herself that she told me this week was busy. I told her I thought we were celebrating my birthday and I felt neglected. Well she ended up studying and never made it up for me. I am sexually frustrated too now...but more worried about the neglect. She came back from a trip back home 3 weeks ago. Worked 6 nights and I can't understand why she is so behind. She was even supposed to study a little from her home country. I'm just so disappointed with her as a whole. I'm not sure it's narcissism she has or bpd but I'm sure there is something.

Hi I met this woman on a dating app.... I'm 47 her 39. Basically when we met on this app she had told me she would be in my province for 6 months only and would have to move to another province given she has a goal to be a Canadian. Given the pandemic I said ok and we started seeing each other quite frequently. Well we clicked really well and the relationship just got better and better. She then extended her stay because she was able to study only in another province. During our time she hinted a few times that if I marry her she would stay but I told her there must be another way ....although this is the province she really wants to stay in, it is also the hardest given more language requirements. she ended up staying almost 11 months. During that time time both of us developed feelings for each other and only had 4 days that were ackward with the rest of the time being a breeze and fun. She left in sept 2021 and we have chatted, exchanged racy pictures, talked and had virtual sex until the calls started to be more distant both ways because the idea is that we had to move on. Now In january she told me she had been approached by a guy and she says she will meet him. It has been a week since then and I have been feeling very sad almost asking myself if I should have just married her. However, I'm sad because had she said I'll stay in this province with you....I would have probably married her. But she did seem to have that option open given the restrictions and best option in getting her papers. She said I was exactly her type, that the sex was amazing and she found we really clicked together... so if love trumps all I did not see it here UNLESS I missing something. Just writting this in case someone has some input on the situation.