Leila22

Just now, Andrina said:

Your self esteem is in the gutter. A man who regularly ignores you and has the poor ethics to cheat is all you think you deserve. You can just as easily find a man to love who has good ethics and treats you like the special person you are, but you keep yourself chained to smelly garbage. 

Make yourself single. Work on your self-esteem with therapy or at the very least, by reading books and articles on how to achieve this and do the work. Only then will you be ready to date in a way that benefits you.

thank you so much for replying.  I just think I can't find anyone else so i go back to him thank you for such lovely words  made me feel wanted! He has not been nice to me and we argue so i understand that my self esteem is very low. 

1 minute ago, Krombopulos said:

Mentally and emotionally. I asked if we could cuddle a little while afterwards and she was all about it

hugs. 

7 minutes ago, Krombopulos said:

She won't be paying me at all, being the experience, time spent with her and her happiness is all the payment I need. I will remain anonymous and will wear a mask.

 

We didn't talk about rather or not someone else would be there. I'll definitely be sober, not a big drinker, plus I don't want alcohol to dull the sensation

if thats what you want to do then go for it :) . okay that's okay if your not a drinker not many people are :) 

he has messaged me this morning but has left me alone I am so stuck ah

7 hours ago, lostandhurt said:

She lives 6 hours away.  Full stop right there.

You didn't form a real relationship when you both lived in the same city so why do you think it will be any better with 6 hours between you two?

  What doomed this whole thing was playing games.  You played it cool and acted like you didn't want a relationship with her so she played it cooler back and then upped you by moving away.

  I suggest you forget about the night at the bar and let that go.  Go about your life and date other people and IF she ever moves back to your city then possibly you both can stop with the games and take a risk and admit how you feel.

This other guy is most likely some dude from where she lives now and she was just keeping him interested.  He has zero to do with all this so forget about him.

Next time if you really like someone be brave enough to put yourself out there and take it to the next level.

She lives 6 hours away and is dating other people, time for you to do the same and let her go.

  Lost

explains everything :)

On 10/27/2021 at 3:40 AM, oliver7794 said:

I don't know what I should do, I feel lonely and sad when I am not meeting anyone. And when I do meet someone I feel hurt and anxiety. 😥 Endless cycle, I want to meet someone and be happy, don't have to worry about whether he is going to cheat or not.

how is everything now? is everything a little bit better? waiting and not rushing into relationships is best, before getting with my boyfriend it was a year since being in a relationship, maybe try focusing on yourself before anyone else? the main person in the moment is you of course, I always learnt 'you have to love yourself before you love someone else'

18 hours ago, Jen_1016 said:

I found a text on my boyfriends phone from another man about hooking up.  I then snooped on his phone and found a website where he placed an ad seeking men for discreet encounters.  I confronted him and he became very enraged.  Called me some names then went silent and left.  I gave it a few days then sent him a message saying if this is how he feels we should expect had a conversation about it that I'm here for friendship and if he needed to talk.  He quickly accused me of trying to make myself feel better, that he did those things but didnt act on them so he's not wrong.  Conversation got ugly and now I'm blocked from social media and his phone.  I know going through his phone was wrong but Im not sure Im the one to blame for the breakup.

sounds really horrible I am so sorry. it is classed as cheating and I am sorry you went through that hard time. when we confront someone for doing things wrong they often get pressed about it and take it out on the person nearest to them, and he took it out on you because he knew he messed up. him accusing you on trying to make yourself better is such a idiot move, because we all know, he knows what he's done and the only way he thinks he knows he is getting away with it is by accusing you off things to try and change the subject.

Jess

Hey! me and my partner have been together on and off for a year, we have had our ups and downs, we are happy together but some days we fight and we are not happy with each other. I love him, and we went out on a date on his birthday, he enjoyed it, we went out on the lake on a swan, and we had a good time, after that we argued and he moved on with my best friend when he came running back to me saying he missed me etc. we are currently together and we often fight but we are happy together.he often cheated on me and I am so silly for taking him back but i cant deny the love i have for him, my best mate pushed her things up and he fell in love and cheated on me saying things about me which broke my heart inside, is that normal? I am not here to feel oh help me but want to address cheating hurts the other half as in my case he has hurt me. he kept saying i caused his cheating when i did not i did not tell him to cheat i stuck by him and he hurt me by cheating which is not nice. when you feel low like me after the break up, I have had mental health issues that he knows off, i got beaten up  and he stood outside laughing, I was struggling with things that had happened at home and he had the cheek to rip me off like that it made me feel really sick inside and he calls me once each day and never hardly messages me, i don't feel like he actually wants me. 

I have suffered previously, with the date of loss of my nan and things and he knows when those dates come I am upset and to be gentle to myself but he sometimes wants to help me but he just gets bored and confides in me which makes me think he only is using me for when he has nothing else to do as he does it often and he even said it once. I am new to everything with kissing etc and I aren't a fan but i did it to please him as he is that type of guy, I aren't dissing him I am just letting everything out as that's what is best rather then build things up. he can go 3-4 days without messaging me and when he eventually messages me he replies and is rude, he says why you ignoring me stop annoying me and get lost. it breaks my heart. i aren't here to annoy him I want him to recognise that i am here for him i love him and i am standing around and getting messed about as that's not fair. 

Jess