fallininlove

So an update: I ran into him at the club yesterday. He was all alone in a corner and he kept looking over at me but I think he got some girls number. Either way, I blocked him!

so an update to this is he followed me on instagram randomly why? i didnt follow back but why

i miss him guys 😞

How do I get over this breakup? It's Saturday night and I stayed in and cried the whole night. Am I supposed to force myself to go out and socialize? I dont really have a large support group so its difficult. I have joined the gym, that helps a little. I mainly get the blues at night.

Hey... I appreciate the insight. If the problem was ONLY texting and thats it, I would agree with you. But it was a large issue than that. It was communication in general. If we argued, he ran away. Didn't talk about it, didn't address it for days. I dont think thats right in a relationship. He did a lot of shady stuff in between. I guess I didn't want to believe in all the red flags and wanted him to text me so I can get reassurance that there were no red flags and it was all in my head. But looking from it now, there were so many red flags not just his texting style. Also, from a different perspective, if your gf wants you to text more, you should reassure her or try to put in effort. When we first started talking, he was texting me like crazy. So from him texting me all the time at the beginning to him now saying I'm not a texter was confusing. Didn't add up.

That is very true. I just feel pure happiness when I'm with him and it's like I'm addicted to that feeling every single weekend and I'm excited. It's weird.

I dont think he had another gf but I do believe maybe he had a side piece.

with him, i argued about him not putting in effort and not texting me. with texting me he says that hes "not a big texter and only texts for important things" and with putting in effort he told me that "he hasn't been in a relationship in so long, hes bad at it " I don't know why I want him back. Slowly and slowly I realize how awful he was for me. I just think I'm not going to get any guy better than him. I've been single for years so thats not a problem but I think I'm just afraid to date again because its exhausting and draining

I thought that maybe he was cheating or there was another woman involved but every friday/sat we spend the whole day together

I agree I def. need to change something but im not too sure what

You're right. Standing up for myself is always difficult in relationships. I can do it at work, anywhere else but with a guy im dating for some reason I can't. I don't want to argue/fight so I just avoid it. Theres part of me now that regrets texting him anything because now we're not talking.

I just never want to be difficult. I feel like if I say no, an argument is going to happen and I want to avoid arguments. I never tried being stern or doing things my way. I've always done whatever the guy wants to do. I dont know how to do it the other way lol

No, we haven't said I love you's. I've never had a relationship last longer than a few months. All of them are all short term. I can never figure it out

When he would go to clubs, he wouldn't even text me. And I know that he was there for girls. Just with his conversation with his boys, that would be there number one topic - girls. But I hope I do meet someone who treats me right. I'm getting drained and feeling hopeless.

Yeah he's a lot of things. There were so many red flags. He blocked me from his stories on social media (so i can't see what he's doing), hes 30 and still going to clubs, i think he secretly recorded me giving him a bj, i had an abortion and he offered no support and never asked how i was, he has another girl's netflix, ... wow as im writing this..... just wow i feel like an idiot

Thank you... I will try this out in my next relationship. There were plenty of red flags before this and I should have stopped myself from seeing him.

I mean its not like we don't talk throughout the week. We do but not a lot. Some weeks its good, some weeks its bad and lately its been bad. Last week he went MIA and then told me he had a stomach ulcer. He just has so many excuses and never keeps me in the loop. You're right. I'm clinging to an illusion of him. He doesn't care and I should def. step back. I have daddy issues, so I always chase after guys. Idk how to change it but I like what I like

I asked him this last week and he said that he thought I didn't mind and that he would drive to me... but I know thats a lie lol

You're right.... everyone's saying what I was kinda thinking. It just sucks. Takes me so long to get over someone

Some days he would text great and then the next day it would be nothing. It was very on and off and very confusing. He would say hes a bad texter but when were together, he would be texting his friends all the time.

You're so right. Thank you for your insight!

The reason why I like him so much is because we have a strong connection, when were together its amaazing. We spent the whole day(s) together and never want to leave. He told me the same thing as well. But maybe I'm clinging on to that. I never felt like that before with any other guy and my fear is that I'm not going to feel like this with any other guy in the future which is why I'm holding on

We see each other once a week which is why I would like to communicate more. I wanted to see him more during the week but he says he works and then goes to the gym and sleeps. So for me it's weird seeing him once a week and then no communication.

Absolutely. This should be the fun times.

Maybe you're right but he barely puts any effort into the relationship. I'm the one picking him up from his house, driving, etc... so I viewed this as putting effort in. But I guess you are right, everyones got their own texting styles.