nothotman

She is now threatening to kill herself. Her father is nonchalantly saying that if she decides to kill herself, there's nothing he can do. He can't lock her up in a box for the rest of her life. It is her choice whether she wants to continue living. He hopes that she won't kill herself but cannot stop it. I have told him that him saying this kind of thing is not helpful for her and replied that he was only telling the truth.

I have broken up with her in front of her father because she is not stable enough to take this news without his support. He has told me that he views me as he son and that he would have never abandoned me like my father did. He says I am doing the same thing to her by leaving and not finding a way to make things work. Right now she is crying and I am feeling pretty ***ty. Her father is telling me that I will only realise my mistake when I am alone and it is too late.

I don't need her for anything. I am financially sound. I guess I thought I could make it work.

Just CBD. And her going off meds.

In country A she told me she slept in the same bed with a man for money but there wasn't any sex involved and it was before we started going out. Which threw me off because her family is rich. She said she had anxiety that money would ran out and when she asked her father for money he told her to get a job. (She was attending university at the time)

We both met in country A. I had a job offer in country B. In order to remain together, she needed to move in with me in country B. What's so hard to understand?

We live in my place, if we were to break up I would have to evict her and she will have to move out of the country.

I provide her with more than enough money for anything she wants. Why would she go on escort? The man she was going on little dates with was a bus driver. This isn't about money.

Should I break up with my girlfriend? Tldr: I found out my girlfriend has been lying to me for over a year and recently came upon a video of her having sex with another man. She doesn't want to break up. Her father is visiting us and I have to make a choice. Background: We moved in together really quick because at the time, I needed to move out of the country for a new job. After the first few months of us living in the new city, she started meeting black men (I am black she is white and we live in a predominantly white country) During the course of a year, we have had fights over this, because these black men she would freely give her number kept growing in her contact list. I estimate about 25 black men were in her contacts, she estimated 15. At the beginning she was telling me that she was meeting this black man named Carl for coffee with his girlfriend (always the 3 of them she said, but I could never confirm the existence of such girlfriend). In order to calm my nerve, she invited him over for lunch. I could tell from the way he was looking at her that he was eye ***ing her. One day at night, we were both looking at her phone for some reason and Carl sends her "I love you". I get mad, she tells me that he said it in a friendly way but agreed with me to stop seeing him. That's just one out of the 25. I kept growing more and more paranoid and suspicious about her. I woke up one morning at 2 am to see that she went to the kitchen to chat with a black man. We had a fight and the conclusion of that fight was that she would not delete her conversations with men. She would receive random messages from a man saying "ok". She would tell me some lie about how men send her random messages with no sense. I knew she was lying and just kept deleting the preceding conversations. We kept fighting for over a year. She should have seen how this was affecting me. I caught her in a conversation with a man that was saved under a female name on her contact list. She deleted the conversation but I took her phone and started recording all the suspicious numbers of men on my phone. She was trying to prevent me from doing this but I use my force to keep her from reaching my phone. She eventually got my phone and locked herself in the bathroom. She deleted the numbers I recorded from my phone and her phone. While I was trying to get into the bathroom I got so mad that I punch the door of the bathroom bloody. I broke the door. She promised me things were going to be different. Fast forward some time, there was a period where we didn't fight over this for two whole months (it was nice). One day I woke up and went to the living room. Saw him talking to another man. She ran to the kitchen and deleted the conversation. I took her phone by force and ran outside the house with a shirt during winter (it was very cold). I saw that the man sent the message "text me when it is safe so I don't get you in trouble". So I texted him that it was safe now. Long story short I managed to get pictures of all the little dates they had together and pictures of then kissing each other on the cheeks (she claims this was innocent) I get mad and then we had another fight. I asked her before confronting her whether there's something I should know about. She said nothing. She said absolutely nothing. When I confronted her, she told me the pictures were innocent and nothing else happened. She blamed everything that happened to her being out of medication. She hit her head when she was little and has mental issues ever since. She stop taking medication around the time we moved in together. I accepted that until the man send her a porno of the two of them having sex. Threatening her that if she doesn't talk to him, he would send this to me. She claimed that it wasn't her. When she saw that wasn't working, she claimed that it was her in body but not in mind. She claims she was raped by this man. I took the matter to police. She claims she was drugged. There are some weird stuff around her explanations. They were both having coffee (in secret, without telling me) and he gave her a pill for headaches which he put inside the drink and she just drank it because I guess that's normal. Then she felt sleepy and instead of going home she decided to sleep it off at a stranger's room because I would ask questions if I saw her sleepy at home (because I guess she couldn't make up something like I am tired, she has been very skilled at lying so far). Then 30 minutes after she passed out came home made lunch, had lunch with me, I was none the wiser, and then she left the house again that day during the afternoon, came back around 18:00 left at 14:00. To do what? Have a walk. She is not employed or studying full time. She only studies English, so that she can join the university when she ready. But then covid happened. She would go out every day, every morning between 09:00 to 11:00. But lately she added also going out between 14:00 and 18:00. I suspect this addition was to accommodate the work schedule of one of the men she meets. Since all of that happened, she has gone on to medication. An antidepressant and taking therapy. She tells me now she doesn't feel the need to go out every day and that with therapy and understanding her mental issues she hopes to never lie to me again. She says I shouldn't break up with her now because now she is getting help with her mental issues that lead her to behave this way and that she will improve. My job is very stressful. I make good money but that's because the work is tough. While she was going out meeting men I was always working. I need time to rest after work but I told I would go with her so that she didn't have to go out alone if she waited for me to finish work. She always refused. The stress of her behaviour has been damaging my health and my throughput at work. I sympathize with her mental issues but I cannot understand why she wouldn't stop seeing the effect her behaviour was having on me. I am breaking apart I fear the rape is just another lie to cover up what she has done. So far she hasn't admitted to willfully cheating on me. The 25 black men were there just to make me jealous she claims because I was too busy with work and rest to give the attention she deserved. Any advice would be great. I need an objective voice because in my state I can't think clearly.