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I don't understand why people keep talking like there is no medium between a "bad boy" and a "nice guy". Also, from my own EXPERIENCE, I've learned that women (in varying degrees) are the epitome of oxymoron. They expect a lot, but have no idea what they want. I've learned this by actually dating women, not just being friends w/ them. I have to agree w/ yahoo. If you never had a girlfriend/boyfriend, you can't give advice about it. It's something you have to experience yourself. Also, I believe that looks are not everything but they are definitely something. I don't buy it for a minute, and any straight man with a pen15 can look at a women and not think about "the physical" first. Looks are the first thing you see. Granted, I've met many hot girls who turned out to be repulsive once I got to talk to them. Just because this is my mentality, doesn't mean I am an animal. I have girls as friends who I am not physically attracted to, however they are great girls. But since we are talking about dating, part of dating is having a physical relationship. And to have a physical relationship w/ someone, there has to be a physical attraction first. Which is just as important as a mental attraction. Girls may say they want a nice guy when they read the description on a website, however, being 100% nice and loving to anyone is completely out of balance. If you are nice to a woman all the time, no matter what, then what make it "good" . In order to appreciate "good" you have to see "bad". It's called a balanced and healthy relationship. The girl I dated for 2 1/2 years wasn't great and kind 100% of the time. We had many bad time & many good times. YIN-YANG

I've never broken a woman's heart. But a couple have broken mine. Even after using a word as insipid as "love" . Shysoul, have you ever been in love w/ a girl? Just curious. Love is a word that gets thrown around and people don't know what it means. I think it means that even after going through hell w/ someone, you can still be together. I dated a girl for 2 1/2 years and we said "i love you" a many times, and did show it in our behavior. However after a separation of 2 months, our relationship ended. That show's how strong it was..... I'm not a guy who breaks girls' hearts, however I am now smarter and a little more careful how I use the word LOVE, based on my own PERSONAL EXPERIENCES. Shysoul, I would be delighted to hear about your own personal experiences dealing w/ "love". Please be specific, if you choose to share this w/ us.

One thing confuses me. Shysoul, are you a girl or a guy? Your gender says male (the triangle) but you have a girls picture there. Aside from everything we've been discussing, I'm a little confused. Anywho, I'm not offended at all by your comments. In my life, I really don't know anyone who can't stand my attitude, so it's great to finally have that. If jerks are the only ones who "jerk off" then I guess every guy must be a jerk, cause I'm sure if you ask any guy if he masturbates, he'll probably say yeah, unless he is lying or doesn't have a penis. Like I said earlier, when we have girlfriends, we do it more. If you're wondering why, well.........you're gonna have to figure that one out for yourself. I can't stand how you assume things about me. So far, I've only attacked what you said, however i've never assumed anything about who you are based on what you wrote. FYI, I was raised in a very loving environment. And speaking for myself, I was a selfish baby. I got smacked around when I felt I was bad. It's not really that abnormal. I'm 22, and living away from home on my own w/ a great career and am pretty successful for my age. I am not putting love before sex, or sex before love. That's up to the individual, and what they want in their life at the time. Right now, I am not looking for love, but eventually one day (if you read what I said) I do want to find that special woman to fall in love with. Unfortunately, it just happens and you can't plan stuff like that. "The only girls who would respect that attidude have problems of their own. If a girl knew that was how you thought, she'd be dumping you faster then you can blink. " If you're a girl, that's one thing, but if you're a guy, I just can't comprehend the statement above. When a guy see's a girl he's attracted to, the first thing that he thinks of is sex. That's an animal instinct. Then, if he's like me, he'll actuallly talk to her and look for an intelligent conversation. I don't just go after any hot girl that I see. There are tons of attractive girls out there, but the ones I go after have to have something more than breasts, legs , and smooth skin. ( of course that should be included) .

She was attacking both of us, so we needed to retaliate

This is to annie 24. I Agree, girls do eventually grow out "Bad boys" , but that's after giving the A-hole about 17 blowjobs. Then he goes and treats some other girl like crap and bangs her a 8 or 9 times. to translate what you said. "Don't worry - your day will come!" That basically means, all you "nice guys" just sit around and enjoy masturbating until some girl comes a long. then you can kiss her lips which probably taste like penis. NOTE: What I said above was not meant to be an attack. I'm just the type of guy who does not sugar coat things. I am a mix between a "nice guy" and 'bad boy" and get an average share of XX chromo. Not all girls are the same. Not all of them fall of them fall into what i said above. Basically, the best mix, is to be yourself in front of a woman. "Playfully argue" w/ her and be confident. If you are having a conversation about something & you don't agree w/ her, then be honest about it. Show that you are interested in something else besides her. Giving girls a hard time in a nice way keeps things spicy and sometimes humorous.