Thank you so much for every single one of your comments.
You have all made some pretty valid points that i wasn't even considering before, foolishly.
As this is my first time in 2 years putting myself out there i can certainly see i was WAY in over my head with things that shouldn't even be a concern right now. I can confirm i do not plan on sleeping with him after a first date, so i have more time to work on my confidence, what i am comfortable with and my boundaries before that even happens so yes, i need to relax.
I also realize it is not anyone's responsibility to soothe my insecurities so its pretty evident i need to do some more internal work here!
He has asked to go for coffee on Saturday morning, as he has work after so i think i'm going to go! as you have all said i have nothing to lose right and i think id enjoy something as casual as a coffee and a chat.
Thank you again all 🙂 D xxx