Hi there,
My husband's nephew, John, is 25 years old and all he does all day is play videos games and smoke weed. Not even exaggerating here this is his 24/7 situation. He has been like this for 3 years now.
Here is some back story. His mom (my husband's sister) had him when she was 20 years old and never married his father. Nothing wrong with that of course but she would leave him at his grandparents house alone a lot. My husband is 10 years older than his nephew and so he would babysit him a lot. His other sister would also babysit but he never really spent much time with his parents. Eventually my sister-in-law married and had 4 children with her new husband. Our nephew, John, was integrated with the new family and lived with them until his mom kicked him out of the house at 15 for being arrested on grounds of smoking and selling drugs on campus. He lived again at his grandparents house for a short period of time and then lived with his girlfriend for a short period of time and then back to the grandparents house. But he was never allowed back home and his biological father was rarely if ever around while his stepdad was also not caring at all towards him. Really just never has had a stable family dynamic.
Three years ago John's girlfriend of 10 years broke up with him and never talked to him ever again even after he attempted to reach out to her several times. Since then, he has been in this state of depression and never wants to do anything. He started to go to school for a mechanic's license after he got his GED, but because of the pandemic, he stopped going. During the holidays, he just stays in his room and never comes down to talk to us. His mom will drop off presents for the holidays and birthdays and will try to talk to him but gives up quickly. We went over to my in-laws for Thanksgiving yesterday as per usual and no matter how many times he was called down to come join us, he never came down.
My mother in law has tried to suggest counseling, going back to school, getting a job, etc. Nothing motivates him. He sleeps during the day and plays video games when he wakes up until he goes back to sleep again. He is skin and bones.
We are at a loss of how we can help him and oftentimes worry that he will end his life. Anyone have any other suggestions because we don't know what to do anymore. Thanks for your help.