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found a video of you and my son playing. the two people I love the most together having fun. been in the bathroom at work balling today. i miss those playful moments.

My husband and I broke off and were apart for almost three years before we decided to get back and get married. Sometimes, we have to be apart in order to appreciate the value of the other. I think this is what happened to us. And now I could say, we are happily married and our relationship is getting stronger wiith time. We are on our 12th year of marriage life now.

congrats to you!!!! did you have kids that kept you in touch or where you LC or NC? What was the turning point for you/him or both?

Until she realizes that marriage is the one thing that makes her drink

 

Lol, that's what I call persistance !

hahaha what is awesome is that he has become content and happy regardless if she is sober or not. that is the POWER! Same with us here. We heal, become happy/peaceful regardless of what our ex partner does or does not do. We are powerless, but NC give us power to get to a place of indifference.

beautiful. I know a man in alanon who was engaged, they broke up due to her drinking, got back together, married, she drank again, they divorced, dated and are now remarried.

it takes what it takes sometimes. I LOVE RECOVERY!!!!

Are you really sure you want him back? Think about this very long and hard. Not about a fantasy, but about the reality of this.

You need to be VERY careful here. You are extremely exposed and vulnerable right now. FRAGILE!!!!

You need to be the complete opposite of what you were at the end of the R and post break up.

What have you learned about yourself?

What have you fixed (really not enough time has gone by)?

What is going to be different?

What do I do about the ring? Ask for it back or let her keep it?

perhaps it is best to leave it alone for now. see is she brings it up. you did give it to her.

Is here R pattern typically be avoidant? The best thing you could do is back way off. Give her alllll the space she wants. Let her go for those 2 to 4 months.

2.5 months. My heart and mind are not on the same page this morning. My heart is telling me I need to "fix" it/her. My head, logic, knows I cannot fix what she broke. One day at a time. Lots of prayer. Also talked with a trusted friend this morning regarding this.

accepting that I still love you but I am not with you. I am okay and not beating myself up over it for having these feelings 2 month post BU

taking my mom out to dinner for VDAY, moving into my new place, starting over/fresh. I surrendered you to God and wish you all the best.

I wanna have one of these successful stories one day so badly! But i know me and her arent ready for it yet, been 2 months since the BU and 18 days NC for me and its been hard. There is still hope in my heart it may work out down the road 6 months- 1 year or whatever. Just really hoping that NC doesnt have her forget about me completely and move on! I know its for me to heal and get my head on straight but i would be lying if i said part of me isnt wishing she will contact me ever again!

NC is for your healing and that is what you need right now. Most recon happen, or so it seems, after you have moved on/accepted/let go/grew and learn. You come to a place of getting yourself back/new you and being happy.

met a couple recently who were married, had kids, got divorced, dated other people, had a bad divorce and ended up getting remarried.

Sunday will be 7 weeks BU and NC. Hard to believe you can go 16 months talking/texting someone every day and then nothing for 7 weeks. Seems like a dream.

Everyone in this thread trust me, you are better off not talking to them...

 

Both the girls I dated last year randomly got back in contact with me this week, uncanny timing. One after maybe 4 months and the other after close to 7 months of no contact. Combined 11 months of no contact between two exes broken in the span of 48 hours. Now both are friends with me on FB again and one of them has called me and texted me even though she has a boyfriend now and seemingly wants to be BFF with me.

 

It's a mess, stay no contact, my life is a lot more confusing and worse off now than if I had ignored them and stayed no contact.

the universe is funny like this and hates a vacuum I have found. it is always interesting that once something is removed from your life there is always something coming to fill it.