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  1. jphcbpa
    found a video of you and my son playing. the two people I love the most together having fun. been in the bathroom at work balling today. i miss those playful moments.
  2. jphcbpa
    congrats to you!!!! did you have kids that kept you in touch or where you LC or NC? What was the turning point for you/him or both?
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    hahaha what is awesome is that he has become content and happy regardless if she is sober or not. that is the POWER! Same with us here. We heal, become happy/peaceful regardless of what our ex partner does or does not do. We are powerless, but NC give us power to get to a place of indifference.
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    beautiful. I know a man in alanon who was engaged, they broke up due to her drinking, got back together, married, she drank again, they divorced, dated and are now remarried. it takes what it takes sometimes. I LOVE RECOVERY!!!!
  5. jphcbpa
    Are you really sure you want him back? Think about this very long and hard. Not about a fantasy, but about the reality of this. You need to be VERY careful here. You are extremely exposed and vulnerable right now. FRAGILE!!!! You need to be the complete opposite of what you were at the end of the R and post break up. What have you learned about yourself? What have you fixed (really not enough time has gone by)? What is going to be different?
  6. jphcbpa
    perhaps it is best to leave it alone for now. see is she brings it up. you did give it to her.
  7. jphcbpa
    Is here R pattern typically be avoidant? The best thing you could do is back way off. Give her alllll the space she wants. Let her go for those 2 to 4 months.
  8. jphcbpa
    2.5 months. My heart and mind are not on the same page this morning. My heart is telling me I need to "fix" it/her. My head, logic, knows I cannot fix what she broke. One day at a time. Lots of prayer. Also talked with a trusted friend this morning regarding this.
  9. jphcbpa
    accepting that I still love you but I am not with you. I am okay and not beating myself up over it for having these feelings 2 month post BU
  10. jphcbpa
    taking my mom out to dinner for VDAY, moving into my new place, starting over/fresh. I surrendered you to God and wish you all the best.
  11. jphcbpa
    NC is for your healing and that is what you need right now. Most recon happen, or so it seems, after you have moved on/accepted/let go/grew and learn. You come to a place of getting yourself back/new you and being happy.
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    met a couple recently who were married, had kids, got divorced, dated other people, had a bad divorce and ended up getting remarried.
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    Sunday will be 7 weeks BU and NC. Hard to believe you can go 16 months talking/texting someone every day and then nothing for 7 weeks. Seems like a dream.
  14. jphcbpa
    the universe is funny like this and hates a vacuum I have found. it is always interesting that once something is removed from your life there is always something coming to fill it.
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