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Hey everyone, Just wanted to update.... the friends thing didnt work! okay, okay go ahead and and say it, ghost! lol anyway..he kept showing up where i was at and then last weekend he called at 3am waking up my kids....LAST STRAW! I saw mutual friends the next day and asked them what he was calling me for at 3am and they went off on me sayign that he was angery with me for something that happened days prior. anyway, long story short.... I told the mutual friends that I coulnt hang aroung them anymore because they are to close to the ex and told them to tell the ex that if he called my house again that i would change my number. END OF STORY. Its friday and my kids went to thier fathers house for the week and my ususal thing to do is go out, I may go out for a bit, but If there is any BS....im just going to say that I dont h ave the tie to talk and walk away...If he shows up..Im outta there! ghost...please dont rub it in too much okay? I had to try and be friends...obviously he isnt ready to act like an adult, besides...after thinking about things with a clear mind...Im not even sure he is the kind of person I want to be friends with anymore. My friends respect the fact that my kids are sleeping at 3am! I find that funny also, he had time frames when i could call him and when i couldnt...he called/calls when ever he wants.. Good thing it spring....the farmers are going to be planting soon and maybe I can sell them all the BS i have gotten from him for fertilizer for their fields? lol

i owe sooo much from my marriage. he racked up bills in his name and he owes the IRS....guess who gets to pay half? ME, because i was married to him. i spent 2 yrs upset about this and it sneaks up on me once in awhile now, but the bottom line is that there is nothing i can do about it but pay what i can when i can......LESSON LEARNED! and worth every penny i might add!

wow anna, let it go....you cant get blood out of a turnip.... let it go....you cant get love out of a loser! call it ......LESSON LEARNED!!! DONT EVER REPEAT THESE MISTAKES!

point taken ghost..lol i dont mind bugs if im in their element..but ill be damned if they are going to take over mine...lol Is that my toilet flushing again? thanks for the laugh ghost!

dont let it get to you anna, THATS WHAT HE WANTS! he came crawling back to you and you refused him...hes just trying to hurt you and you are letting him by checking his my space...im glad you found out because now you have the tools to get over him and the tool you are using right now is ANGER! be angry, just dont be hurt. there is nothing to be hurt by this time around, because you DIDNT FALL FOR THE LIES.

ghost, gald to hear you are doing great. by the way, who are you calling a kid? lol

i honestly think that im to the point that i dont care if my ex changes. let the next woman deal with it! I ran into a friend of mine that ive known since i was 5yrs and he was telling me that he hopes his daughter grows up like me.. he told me that any man would be lucky to be with me. that made me feel good. I told him breifly about my ex and he said he didnt even know that we had been seeing each other. anyway, its all going to get better. when you are seeing someone who is insecure...it really takes a lot out of you. there is someone better out there for both of us anna, you just need to think about that and not the past...try too anyway. thats what im doing and it helps...cant say i wont slip up or that i dont miss him, it just gets less and less everyday.

its his b-day and you are thinking about him.... try thinking to yourself...its just another day for you. his b-day is nothing to you.

nope..not since he called me monday night. i made it short and sweet. im going to do LC for a bit.....like ghost says: I need time to heal. I want to be friends and LC is the way to go for me. Ive just been thinking back on things and i dont want to get into a big converstion with him right now because he does have a way to charm his way back in.... if i see him in public i will be friendly, if he calls i will answer, but im not calling him.

HI guys, glad to see your doing better anna. i agree with ghost...dont call him just because its his b-day. it might cause trouble that you are not ready for emotionally. ghost, how are you?

ghost, i think i have healed..(somewhat) yes i miss him, but we have been back and forth so many times in the last couple months, that i think ive finally let go of any hope that we can be together. i wont be the only one trying, he only tried when it was what he wanted. i told him this. i never really had the chance to tell him everything i was having issues with because i was afraid of losing him and i have had that chance with the converstion yesterday. he is a great guy..he just has commitment issues and ive done/ given enough. i know this wont be easy.........but my self respect is coming back and that is powerful in healing completely. i have adopted the "whatever" attitude. there are plenty of men interested in dating me..im just not ready. i didnt date anyone serious for 2 yrs after leaving my ex husband. i was too bitter and i didnt want to ruin any chance of finding someone. i took a risk with this man and it didnt turn out. i have to accept that and move on eventually, i just dont think it would be fair to start seeing anyone else..it wouldnt be fair to them, as i have feelings to sort through about my ex.

anna, of course you are going to feel as though you took steps back..nobody can take blows like you are and not stumble backwards, stay strong and have faith!

maybe thats the best thing to do. it will give you space from your ex and your dad.

anna, i saw your other post about you family problems....im sorry you have this to deal with on top of everything else.. all of this is going to make you stronger in the end. I do think you need to tell your dad that you are in a position that is unfair and hurtful to you and see if he steps up to the plate. i dont think that you should be in the middle...its not healthy for you and your dad is being selfish to keep you in the middle. i know you love him but he needs to take care of this.

i agree... i shouldnt have to change my life. if in fact i truly cant handle seeing him then i will avoid it. but so far so good. i really dont think im going to be running into him all that much.