So I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. In the beginning he was always making time for me, and showed a lot of interest in me and everything however I was always the one to initiate communicating but he would always plan to see me etc. Then he started acting a bit different, like I wasn’t a priority and kinda like he wanted ME to chase HIM. I’m always putting in most of the effort communication wise. He would tell me he would want to hangout on certain days and then I wouldn’t hear from
him on that day until after he would tell me that he was actually busy and he’s sorry. I know for a fact that he does have a lot going on and he is a busy person that has a lot on his plate responsibility wise so I never took it to heart, life happens and at least he was trying to make time. We went a few weeks without seeing each other or talking much, but he ended up asking me to hangout and we did finally, when we hangout he is so loving and attentive, and acts like he really likes me. He told me he has just been very busy and didn’t have much time to spend with me, but he’s going to stop being as busy soon so he will have more time. He mentioned that he felt like I wasn’t communicating enough with him like messaging him enough, which is strange because I’m the one that always initiates everything, he rarely messages first now. I stopped talking to him for awhile because I felt the effort was one sided I wanted him to come to me but then he felt as if I wasn’t into him anymore or forgot about him. Since then I have asked him twice to meet up with me, once he told me he was already hanging out with his friends and couldn’t so I said we can another time. I have tried to make plans with him again and he said that we possibly could meet up as long as his friends don’t want to do something with him that night. I thought that was rude to pretty much say he would ditch me if his friends wanted to do something.
I am very confused by his behavior, because he acts like he is for sure interested in me when we are together and talking, but then at times can seem very uninterested in me or almost manipulative? Sometimes I think he acts this way to get me to chase him on purpose. I can’t tell if he is genuinely not as interested in me as he claims to be, or he plays games. I would like another’s perspective.