Friendship is an incredibly important part of life. It provides companionship, support, and a sense of belonging. Furthermore, it can provide us with an opportunity to discuss our successes and failures with someone we trust.
While many people may think that our friends' successes are inspiring and something to be celebrated, for others, this could lead to some degree of envy or insecurity. It can be hard to be happy for our friends' accomplishments when we may not be achieving the same things.
That said, it’s important to remember that everyone’s journey through life is unique. Every individual experiences ups and downs, and comparing one’s life to someone else’s will never give us true insight into our own successes and failures. That being said, how we view the successes and failures of our friends- and how they view ours- is central to the health of our friendship.
First and foremeost, it’s important to show appreciation and admiration when your friend has achieved something positive. Celebrate their progress with them and offer words of congratulations and encouragement. This can go a long way towards strengthening your friendship and showing that you genuinely care about their success.
However, it’s also important to have empathy when your friend falls short of their goals. It’s ok to feel disappointed when they don’t reach their intended outcome, but it’s essential to focus on understanding and providing comfort rather than criticism. Sometimes all we need is someone to talk to and be heard by, and as a friend it’s important to just be there in those moments.
When it comes to our own successes, it’s good to be open about your accomplishments, but equally important to be self-aware. It can be easy to fall into the habit of bragging when we get good news, but taking too much of the spotlight can do more harm than good. Even if your achievements may seem small compared to others’, it’s important to acknowledge them and be proud of yourself.
When it comes to our own failures, it’s ok to share them, but it’s also important to be mindful about who we choose to confide in. Not everyone will be understanding or supportive, and it’s essential to be around friends who will listen non-judgmentally, even if, at times, we feel heartbroken or embarrassed.
Most importantly, it’s key to remember that our own successes or failures, or the successes and failures of our friends, do not define us. The successes of friends should not be viewed as competition and nor should our own misgivings be taken as a sign of failure. As long as we stay true to ourselves, being surrounded by accomplishment is an enriching experience that shouldn’t be taken lightly.