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I went 6 months no contact with my ex last year. I was extremely depressed and wanted her back. Finally I got ever it moved on and became happy. That's when she wanted me back. We got back together and have been living together for 7 months. Now were both miserable and worse off than when we broke up last year. Going to counseling tomorrow to see if we can get on the same page..

My point: be careful what you wish for folks.

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This was the first thread I found alright after I was left. I was so happy because I thought the magic trick was to leave her alone... But guys and girls: the reality is they will only come back to you it they want too.. So yes the idea is give them space so you don't further mess things up. But don't have expectations for them to come back!

Change into the best possible version of yourself. That's all you can do!

Only good will follow

Day 20.. Crazy we lived together broken up and had to see each other and say hi and bye so I know that shouldn't count but its been 20 days or real hard vote nc since she left and its very strange.

Day 16

You were a tough one day 16. I woke up from a dream with you that put me in the negative from the get go.

I just wish things were different. I wish you could forgive me for getting so lazy and taking things for granted.

I've learned such a valuable lesson. I just die at the reality of what was lost to learn this lesson.

I miss you k

Went on my first hike since we broke up.. I've never been with out you so naturally I'm thinking about you the entire time. I thought about texting u this but decided it wasn't worth breaking nc for because it wouldn't mean anything to you.

Day 14 strict nc

19 days since she moved out

90 days since BU ( wow that seems like alot of days)

almost texted her a funny picture I saw that I knew she would have laughed at.. But I was honest with myself and knew it wasn't a good idea

Day 13.

Eff off!! I'm on a one way street

This day is so hard. I don't mean with my sadness. Just the urge to text her and say hi or tell her I miss her ect.. I know it doesn't matter because if she felt the same I'd probably hear from her by now? Then I think so myself maybe she does miss be but she's doing the same thing with nc.

Went out last night for cinco de mayo. Was terrified id see her out. Really glad I didn't. Day 11 I think was today.

It's been 2 weeks since you moved out. It's been very empowering living alone.

It's been 10 days since full blown NC I don't know how long I will expect a text or a call from you? I still get disappointed when I check my phone and see nothing. I know it will fade with time. I've committed to positive thinking because I know this is a storm that will pass. Either outcome will prove to be okay. a/ we get back together as better versions of ourselves or i take these hard learned lessons and make my next relationship a success.

It's now a week with no contact. With all of this space and time am reading other people situations I have convinced myself that there must be some one else in her life. She has to be interested in some one else. We spent 3 years together and lived together. I know we had problems.. Alot of which are because I lost my manhood. I let myself go.. But in 3 months post breakup I'm in better shape then when we met. I feel good about myself and the only thing I'm missing is her now. If I had her I would have all the confidence in the world.

I lm not ready to let go.

After 30 days I'm going to reach out to her and ask to have a lunch meeting. I want answers for closure. Have you been seeing anyone? Do you want me to leave you alone forever? Is it really dead? Then good bye.

From that point if she see's I've corrected my flaws and it doesn't effect her ill have to throw out memories away.

Today is a mental struggle. I want to ask her so bad to meet up with me. But I know it's useless!! Need to clear my brain.

Day 6

I told myself I was going to stay away from ena to continue my progress but I'm feeling kinds low today.

It's been more then 6 days since some time of contact but 6 true days. Nothing sent by her or me. I'm a roller coaster or emotion. I go through moments if clarity and peace followed by anger and hatred. Then I'm sad then happy.. Ect ect

I deleted her number so I don't call or text her. I know no good will come of it. I'm tired of checking my phone waiting for this stranger to reach out to me.

I hope my suspicious thoughts are not true. I believe now that while we were living together you became interested in another guy. I know you wouldn't cheat on me but I believe that's why you were so ready to move out. It could be my brain but who knows.. I will not ask about the guy in the photos because it will not change. What done is done.

I've been trying to stay Nc for about 2 weeks.. I've had to reply to msgs regarding our living situaion. Now that she's out I am very anxious. I don't know how ill feel it I get nothing from her.. I'm expecting things and I know I shouldn't..

Today will be in charted territory. We haven't finished with all the business of moving out and now we truly have nothing to text about. This is where it really starts to counts she has no reason to contact me at this point. I have high anxiety of the in known.

Today was hard. She texted me to ask if she could pick up the check for the security deposit refund. I said it will be under the floor mat. ( does this count as contact? If it was business related?

Finished day 2

I thought about her all day. Thinking to myself that we are not supposed to be together. She doesn't deserve me. She gave up and left. Then I thought about all my flaws and then blamed myself a little. After almost 3 years I don't want this to be the end. I want to have one more chance to be together. If she can find her way back to me she will be so pleased with the positive changes I've taken on. I know it takes 2 and ill stay NC until she says otherwise.

I hope she realizes that everyday that passes by with NC the stronger I get and the more I will burry my feelings for her.

You moved out and I could tell you were sad. The anger front you were giving me was a little transparent in the last few mins together.

I hope over the next few months of being apart you realize that your love for me is u conditional and that we can work to be a team again. I love you will all my heart and I have worked on everything I needed too.

This is different because now we actually have each other space and took care of things that needed to be fixed.

DAY 100

 

Unless something bad happens to him or his family, I won't contact him ever again, I'm pretty sure.

Congrats! I think you can stop counting now. You are a success

Day 2 of NC

She keeps texting m about "business related things" she's moving out and still has some stuff here.. So does hat count? It's been about a week since I've initiated shy contact but I have had to respond to her.

I keep trying to put her out of my mind. The firsts 2 nights sleeping in my apartment alone have been very rough. She left with the cat and the dog and it is very lonely.

She's supposed to come today to pick up some random things she left behind ( I don't know what time and I don't want to break nc to ask her)

Day 2....The morning has proven to be very rough for me. Saw a recent pic the girl im assuming is his new gf uploaded on instagram, and he commented with 3 heart-eye emojis. That really hurt to see that, and I know its my fault for waking up and snooping. I want to call or text so bad, but besides me not needing to, he probably wouldn't answer or reply anyway. I miss him so much, and after almost three years together, I feel like he doesn't miss me at all because he seems to be so into her. I just don't get it because they not even in the same city. How can he break up with me, and we're long distance, and then jump into another relationship 2 months later thats long distance. This hurts so bad and I want an explanation, but I guess I won't get one.

He's rebounding with her! It's very unlikely that he's head over heels for this new random chick. We ( the dumpee's) granted in a male.. We always feel the pain longer ( unless the role gets reversed in the process)

He's focusing his attention on this new girl with out anything by lust fueling it. Obviously I don't know anything about him personally but this seems pretty standard accross the bored.

I feel like women have a higher advantage when it comes to NC. If you cut this guy out. REALLY make an effort to make yourself better then you are now ( not saying anything is wrong with you now ). He will notice and he will regret giving you up.

I feel like guys are more primitive when it comes to breaking up with women. He thinks he can do better. In his mind the grass is greener in the other side. When he jumps the fence and sees his beautiful ex girlfriend thriving and in a better state then when he left her he will have a rush of regret. Then it will be him trying to bust his ass to get you back!! Pm me and ill give you my e-mail. I'd like to know if you try this and it works.

I tried to start day 1 yesterday because after the ex treated me like garbage in the morning I thought for sure we could just ignore each other for the final 2 days she lived with me.

I got home from work and she says hi ( nicer then usual) and then proceeds to tell me about how she got her eye brows threaded with her friend.. This was strange because just the day before I tried talking to her and she ended up telling me to GFTO of her room and leave her alone.

I will start day 1 again today.

Are you the dumper?

DAY 1

I have been LC for a month. She is moving out tomorrow so my NC is starting today.

I have come a long way and I'm ready to get myself back.