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I posted an update where he did take me to do something festive yesterday. I guess time will tell if he attempts anything next week.

How long were you all dating prior to that?

That’s how I’m just going to see it. What’s one NYE if we end up working out for good? Now, come next year and we still aren’t together for it, then it will be a different story. No I didn’t ask him when I saw him tonight. I feel like the FaceTime thing should be something he would want to do if he considers me at all, not something I should have to ask for. I guess it is what it is at this point.

Thank you. He surprised me tonight with an offer to take a trip about an hour away to go look at Christmas lights and grab some coffee/dessert before I leave out of town on Wednesday. The only thing he really mentioned was his brothers were arguing over where the family was spending NYE since Christmas will be hosted at one or the other. I just let it go and told him my plans. We had a nice evening. We worked out another weekend to go on the trip we were going to take. I’m just going to chalk it up to they are enjoying it as a family this year. If we are still together by this time next year and the story hasn’t changed, I’ll take it from there. I just hope I don’t regret this. He does treat me well and so far has appeared to be honest with me. Maybe he just doesn’t want to put all the pressure on me with meeting everyone at one time and it would just be a mess? He knows I’ve had a lot of stress from med school.

Well, we kind of did have plans. I rearranged my plans because I thought we were doing our trip then. I had mentioned to him last week about taking our trip NYE and day, and he didn’t say there would be a problem with it. All he said was his mom would still be in town, “but that there wasn’t any kind of rush on when she had to leave to go back.” I don’t plan on breaking up with him at all.

Married once a very long time ago when he was young. No children.

He lived in CA for 12 years until he moved here and his mom is in town from NY, so much closer and I know they didn’t get to see each other much because of the distance.

No he didn’t try to blow it off. He tried to schedule it for another day, but I said I was busy and we could just do it another time. It was just cold. I’m not sure if he knew it bothered me since it was over text. I mean it’s possible I guess. He was the one that started the whole relationship with “you know, my nephews could use a good aunt.” So I assumed that meant he would involve me more with his family. Apparently not. I’ve made friends while I’m in med school but a lot of them went home for break and don’t really know them well enough to spend NYE with them. I’m older than most of them so things are a little different.

I’m 29. He’s 37.

I’m not sure. I know last year he spent it with his ex of about a year and a half but that’s because he was on the complete opposite side of the US from his family I assume. Thank you for your reply. It was helpful 🙂

Maybe so. It just bothers me one of the first things he said to me on the day we started dating was “you know, my nephews could use a good aunt.” Not sure how that’s supposed to work out if I never even meet them. I don’t really know many people here yet. I’ll probably just go by myself to watch the ball drop they have here in the city. He also wouldn’t even bother to do a FaceTime if he is with family.

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Hey all! So my boyfriend and I met in May and started officially dating in about August of this year. We both just moved from different states to the same state over the spring/summer. He had drove 4 hours to see me in June in the previous state I was living in for our first date. We were planning to do a short trip weekend trip for our Christmas gift to each other. I thought we would do New Year’s Eve and New Year’s day since we won’t get to spend any holidays together because I’m going back home, and his family has been in town. Well, I mentioned that to him, and he said he can’t do New Year’s Eve because he is spending it with family. There wasn’t really another time to do the trip, and I wanted to get it in before med school starts back up. That’s fine he wants to spend it with family, and I’m not upset about that part. However, he knows I’ll be back in town by then and would be spending it by myself if he wasn’t with me. I haven’t met his family yet, and he said he and his brother has been fighting so things would still be kind of awkward. Awkward in 2 weeks from now? I don’t know. I just feel like New Year’s Eve is a couple’s holiday, and I really don’t hammer him about doing anything with me. I would have been fine spending it with him and his family. It just hurt my feelings he doesn’t want to spend it with me. Should we be spending it together or am I wrong to think this way? On one hand I totally get wanting to spend it with family since he didn’t get to last year, but I just don’t see an issue with wanting to feel included 😕 What do you all think?