LakerFan

I think you're post pretty much sums up why people should _NEVER_ get back with an ex. The trust between the two of you is completely gone... and you're starting to get paranoid. My advice is just to move on with your life and leave this in the past.

Have you ever broken up with someone, regretted the breakup, and wanted to get back with him? Did you ever look back and say, "I think I'll give it another chance." Just curious...

Thanks

Gary,

The only advice I have for you is to stop pursuing her and let her go. This means stop calling, stop emailing, and just cease all contact. You must give her time to miss you, and how can she do that if you are always trying to contact her? Although there is no guarantee that she will come back, you must take some time away from her to clear your mind and get your OWN life back on track. During this time, try to improve yourself in any way you can and try to understand what you did wrong in the relationship and change. If she doesn't come back, at least you are better prepared for your next relationship. Yes, this is easier said than done, but believe me, it gets easier with time. PURSUING your ex will not give you the results that you want. When you stop pursuing, they stop running... all the pressure is off of them and they can decide what they want on their own. Nothing you do or say will change their feelings. The harsh reality is women who decide to do the breaking up have been thinking about it long before it actually happens. Once a woman decides to break up, it's almost always for good. I know this because I have not seen many success stories out there where the woman would take her ex back. It's never happened with my friends who were dumped by their woman, and I'm a firm believer that 90% of the time, it's almost always for good. I'm sorry if this was a little harsh, but it's a reality that many men do not want to accept. The sooner you can accept it, the better off you will be. As BrokenHeart said, if it was meant to be, she will come back.