KatyAtl

Day 1. Limited contact was driving me crazy, giving me false hope, keeping me from moving on with my life. Hope I'm strong enough to stick up for myself.

I feel like I am going to be in love with you for the rest of my life and the thought is scaring me to death. Don't know what to do without you. When does all this pain end?

Had another dream about you B. I want our life back.

If he's wanting that space, then it might be wise to give it to him... you've been talking now again, so he knows you know he exists... I'd let him work it through and be supportive of him, from a distance... some people need to work things out on their own and as much as others feel they are helping them by supporting them, it can in the long run frustrate them and resent that caring behavior...

So how do I support him from a distance and maintain NC? or are you suggesting i just limit my contact with him further?

Ok, it's only Day 1 and I already feel like I want to ask him if this break up is what he really wants, that I don't see why we can't work on things, etc. I'm the one who said "no contact" but ever since I told him that yesterday, I'm wanting to contact him. ](*,) For the last two weeks I have missed him and wanted to be with him, but haven't felt desperate call him up and say such things! Ah! Hope I can be strong.

The first 3 days are the hardest...it's like relationship detox. If you can make it through these 3 days I promise it gets mostly easier (although there will definitely be some low periods) and nothing that you can't overcome

Did he break NC or did you? What sort of effort is he showing that makes you think he's wanting to work it out with you?

 

I will be finding this out tomorrow.. I am going to break NC for a neutral reintroduction.

First of all, good luck to you! And I broke NC...I had a bad night and kind of freaked out and called him. As far as effort, he's just going from ignoring every attempt of mine to contact him, and not trying to contact me if I don't try to contact him, to talking with me casual. He asks me if I'm alright, and we've been joking around every few days or so. The conversations are brief and surface level usually, but it seems like we're enjoying each other again.

I would love to get back together...I don't want to force something that won't ever work, but that's sort of the goal here for me. He's expressed a need for space in the past to work on his own issues, so I think NC might help with that. But at the same time, will he think I'm being callous not talking with him?

I'm considering doing NC again...Only lasted about a week last time I tried. Seems like he's finally back in the mood where he's willing to talk though. What do you guys think? If it seems like he's showing a little bit of effort now, would going NC take us further away from each other or maybe bring us closer together?

We've all slipped up. Take it as a lesson... 99% of the time you're not gonna hear what you want from them. Every time I have broken NC, it always ended in more heartache. Don't do that to yourself!

Yep...Ironically it seems to always take me further and further away from him anyway