crabman

Well, I think I got most of it out, sorry to the person who dared to read this post LOL! It was all about me!

no worries!

it´s helping a lot to do/try/buy new things, like a new haircut, new clothes, new style(?), redecorating your flat, voluntary work (especially with people who are doing worse then you), joining a sportsteam, something that keeps you busy and gets you new people in your life..

and keep in mind there are so many people on earth right now who feel exact the same.. and all of us will get through this!..

all the best!

so im quitting for a month, quitting facebook and going to try to forget about him and work out until i lose 20 pounds.

good on you Nat!..

and: don´t you think his roomy will not tell him about chatting with you??!

sorry, I mean "don´t you think his roomy will tell him about chatting with you?"

QUESTION-- I am not his friend on fb but I have been known to look at his profile pic and I talk about him to his friend that lives in my town... my ex lives 3 hrs away.. I also chat with his room mate.. so for the last 3 weeks I haven't directly contacted him, does this still count as nc?

nope, that is not the kind of NC you need right now.. NC is for YOU to get him out of your head. try to concentrate on good stuff that makes you happy and doesn´t remind you on him at all. it´s not easy but it´s getting better and better, I promise!.. some day you will see how "normal" it is not to think about him.

and: don´t you think his roomy will not tell him about chatting with you??!

all the best!

hey everyone, are you still doing the challenge??.. awesome!..

I used to do the challenge as well, it´s a good one.. but soon I realized, sitting every day on my computer and reading all (the great!) comments about how to get my girl back brings me not a step closer to my goal.. cause I kept focusing on her.. and I forgot focusing on ME..

you can read it here over and over again: the only chance to get your girl back is to let her go and concentrate on YOUR life.. the most important relationship you can ever have is the one TO YOURSELF.. get your life back on track, give your life a sense and build up a vision you can work on.. and maybe your ex will recognize it and she will love it and maybe she gets back to you.. more important: even better girls will recognize it and they will love you for it.. but you have to do it for YOU not for her.. women sense that!

I met my ex in a pub two days ago. the one who puts me down two years ago and let me write all the stuff in this great forum. we had a view drinks and had fun.. thats it! no bad feelings, nothing.. you know why? cause I met a even better one after her. and that´s just two girls in this BIG BIG world!..

sorry superdave, I love your posts, I really do, they helped me a lot! but keep CONCENTRATING on NC is not what we should do. NC better means stop thinking about her over and over again and WALK ON..

it´s good to be here again!..

TWO WEEKS!!!! I have never went this long not contacting him by own free will. I feel impowered. I had the urge to call last night because I was lonely and I said no.. I have come to far. I will do NC. I will. I will. I will!!!

yeah you will! good on you!..

Day 3. went to a boxing gym with some friends, had a decent day ex is still trying to talk to me, everytime i ignore her she writes how shes missing her new bf ( rebound )

 

urgh

uhhh, that´s tough.. but actually a good reason to ignore her..

Comments please

 

Thanks

yeah, what to say slick?.. I know it´s hard! but it gets better, I promiss..

being in this great forum is a good step. check out all the advices and rules and you´ll be better soon. one of them I can´t repeat enough is make sport! every day, as much your body can take. it´s not only bringing your body in good shape, it´s cleaning your soul as well!

good luck and let us know!

day 2! going well, new start, applying for new jobs, went jogging, going the gym with some mates tomorrow. Shes attempting to contact me, im ignoring. Sly remarks about going jogging : hahahahahaha, and haha your going to the gym. Just making it easier for me to ignore her, obviously pissing her off, not sure why seeing as she left me. She asked me if i was going to ignore her for ever. I didnt reply

 

good on you mate, keep going!

Day 2

went to bed yesterday at 6.30 pm, was exhausted and didn´t know what to do with myself. just got up pretty late and have breakfast. did not dream of her, yeah!..

there is a lot to do. feeling strong enough to sort things out..

oh, forgot to say:

I got a flash drive yesterday, put all my digital pics of me and my ex on it, put it in metal can, went to the old aok behind the cemetery at midnight, dug a big hole and threw the can in!... how brave am I?

now there´s nothing that reminds me of her in my flat anymore! hehehe...

oh my.. has anyone realised it´s over 77000 views on this thread in two days!..

superdave rules!

Day 1

ok, i´m gonna join you guys! it´s about two weeks ago when i had last contact to my ex, but i´m gonna challenge myself and start with day 1..

i´m so excited!