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hey great stuff every one. You have my support

I need help. Almost committed suicide last night, will be seeing the doctor today.

Hey life is so beautiful. Please do not try that again. My friend try and succeded. So u got lucky. Please stop.

Hey every body. This site was the best support network I ever been part of. I see a lot of new people on the post. Hello and good luck working NC. I just wanted to give an update to everyone. I have not talked to the ex. Yes I wanted her back, but now I know I do not. I would like closure, but not a must. A lot of good things have happened since I have been aways from my ex. Well I am a lot richer. Have more going on in my own business, and just got notice I was excepted to a full scholarship. I never noticed how much of my life and time my ex stole from me. Do not get me wrong I wanted to build a life with her so at the time I thought it was worth it. It is strange, becuase I never felt that way about someone and honestly do not believe I will or at least for a long time. I just wanted to share what was going on and hope others would get some strength from my story. Good luck every one.

I reach day 30 again, Feeling odd. Had a very strong dream with her. I have had some powerful dreams before; like guessing winning lottary number, but ya I have had plenty of silly means nothing dreams. I really have to let go.. I am doing NC, but MIGHT GIVE IN IF THESE feelings continue.

Today is Day 30 for me. Yay! Love you guys, couldn't have made it through without your support.

 

I still don't feel over my ex. But I do feel a lot better and I don't feel nearly as tempted to get in touch with her anymore. Hope I can keep my chin up and continue to move on. I'll try to do everyone here proud.

Hey thats great. NC works if you work it, I know what you mean about not being totally over them.

Day 2:

 

She basically disappeared again.

Sorry. I know you want some thing more; and her hinting that was very unfair. Its hard to especially when we wish not to let go, but maybe you have the evidence of how she'll be if you did happen to get back with her. Maybe a relationship with her would really be a waste of your valuble time. Keep us posted. NC it works if you work it.

Well here we go. Feeling down from the in and outs of the week. Just feeling confused. I am not sure were to grow now. I am in therapy and have been thinking, thier is no great life, wonderful life, or perfect life. Its just life. Thier will always be relationships that do not mess in our lives. I Just know I always want to be the best person I can be. But boy. It can be tough catching your thoughs. I do not really want my ex back, but I do want to talk with her. A lot of un knows still fill my thoughts, bUT NC is the way to go. Thank ebery one for your support.

Hello every one. I hope NC is bring in the new year with some love and new self worth. I think it is day 20 what ever of NC. I kinda do not keep track. Its so odd for me because I have not really had these feelings for any one, and even thou now I do not want my ex back. Okay maybe just a little , it so hard to put those feeling to the side. They were thier. I thought it was the closest thing to love if not love I felt. I guess I wanted it to be love. aT LEAST I LOVE MYSELF. So I do know self respect and self love, Now I just need to share that with some one healthy and I will be me just sharing myselF. tHANKS EVERY ONE FOR YOUR SUPPORT.

I'm tired of this * * * * . I texted her asking her out for dinner tommrow.

 

I'm so sick and tired of the games. I'm going to be more upfront and honest with this situation, and If I don't get what I want, I am going to leave this situation.

Good luck. Let us know how it turns out. We support you.

It has been a while now since I spoke with my ex. The feelings are gone. And with them the truth comes out. We have to ask are sleves. I did attract that person to me! I also excepted them in my life. Yes that was my doing, and I excepted that behavior. Yes. And I took a chance and tried to save something that was not working off of a feeling. Yes I did. The funny thing is my ex new. I mean she really knew it was a good IDEA for us to split. Sure she could had done it on good terms, I did not have resentment until now. I though ya my ex is just rightly upset, but when the feelings fade you relize, hey that was not nice or exceptable behavior. Sure I was self centered but not deliberately disrespectful or hurtful. We misery Loves Company. So I know she better off. lol Thanks every one for all your support and sharing. It really guided me. I needed this site so bad because i DID NOT HAVE ANY OTHER EXPERIENCE TO BASE THESE FEELING ON or relationship for that matter.

How about:

 

"Because it's none of your BUSINESS! We broke up, remember? My life isn't your business anymore."

 

I hate it when exes want to know "how you're doing"

 

Puke!

Gag!

 

Ohhh! Another one!

How about:

"If I wanted you in my life/business maybe we'd still be together."

 

Even if they're the dumper they still hate that one.

 

Wow I love your mind set. I wish you were posting sooner. I could have used that kind of It my life me first additude. The spell has finally broke for me. Thinking about my ex makes me think what the * * * * . How did some one like that get near me. I'd like to get my stuff back, but besides that I really just want to punch my ex in the face now. My Ex hide an std from me. I over looked it because I though this was somebody special and they were just afriad to scare me off, boy was I changing my values. Just keep NC everyone. I know its hard, but one day. It will all change, and we love are selves all over again.

The spell is broken. I can honestly look back at the relationship and veiw everything with out giving to I love my ex. Let me give them the benifit because it may keep the love going. Thank God its over. I am so lucky my ex did not take me back. I would have learned nothing. I realize some people never do. Though. I would have like it to been true love. I want to believe love is real so bad.

day 11.........i feel great

Day 11 for me to. Happy new year and keep up the NC. NC works if you work it.

I wanted my love to come back. Yep I have moved on. I went on a date today, and have one with some one new this weekend. I really do not know guys. I do not want to love some one else. I can not go through this again. I can not. I do not even know if love is real. My ex did so much for me, I never had a girl cry and be so open with me. I just do not understand. Now I am just going to create this with some one else. I just do not know if I can. Ya I am a big baby. Sorry. It just seems so hard to understand. I am a very logic person. This loving and feelings just seems. Well ya I guess what will be will be.

I've lost track of the # of days, i'm guessing 5 now.

 

nights and mornings are the worst.

I keep telling myself she doesnt deserve somebody as amazing as me in her life!

its her loss!

 

she can enjoy her drama filled life with all her childhood issues taking toll on everybody who tries to get close to her!

 

I'm better off without her. I should feel lucky this didnt happen in a few months when we were planning to have a child together!

 

 

 

 

No she does not deserve some one like you. I a book recommend which really help some one get that strong feeling inside like that is not fair and I will never let some one treat me this way is by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, called How could you do that. The only down side when I read the book was it made me aware of all the bad things I did to my ex and realized she'd be an idiate to believe I would change and she should take me back. It made it easier to let go. Know I love her, and just know her being happy is the best way I can love her now. But ya not to talk about me. I just think the book would reinforce your belief that her behavior was not exceptable and you are right in what your doing. Happy new year every one

ok i'm in. i guess the last time i contacted her was december 16th (she replied on december 21). i broke up with her on october 28th. have contacted her 3 times total since the breakup, 4 if you count a call i made to her cell that she did not pick up after she wrote me back the very first time. so i guess today would be my 14th day of no contact.

 

the way things were left is that she would let me know when she is ready to talk. i vow not to contact her before that, and i guess it would be february at the earliest that she would reach out to me, but it could be march. i sure hope before april, yikes.

You broke up with her, and waiting for her to contact you. Whats your story. SHARING help every one have understanding and can give emotional relief at time. Thanks for Joining NC

Hey I just wanted to say. Yes people who are in a successful lasting marriage do know what each other are thinking. John Gottman. has several books with research. Lots and almost to mach research. Ya you guy were on two different waves lengths so know. But when two people match up so well that is what keeps them to geather, they can not help it.

Wow. That is strong on your part. What would he have to do any way to show you hes ready and cares. Stay NC

day 3............

Hey it day 3 of NC. I know she got that x-mas letter. So I had to start over. I just wsihed her a happy holiday and said I am glade she found the love she wants and deserves, And that I hope they won thier tounaments. I do not think I wanted anything else. She needs to be happy. I would like another chance with her, but hey 1 should have been enough, I also really want to know why she became so cold one day. I do not get that. then the next she was like no you can not get your thinks get over it leave me alone, but the day be4 she was like great guy, sure you can have ur things. NC is for me. It work if you work it. Hey lovemeorleaveme. You said your last ex came back when you did not want them. do they come back when you get over them. Stay strong NC

So my ex texted back this morning. Went back and froth. She finally replied about my roomat egetting married. I replied back again with "yeah il have to find a new roomate or place.. and im playin some ice hockey again"

 

and she hasnt replied again.

 

I asked her how she was since we last talked.. and she just was vague again "about the same as I was before" This was when we bf drank heavily etc.. ... i duno what to do. ... back into NC I go.

Hey. I do not know anything, but it sound like you could be just emotional support right now. Things are rocky for her "like her bf drunk" So she leans on you. I could be off. like I said I do not know anything. NC. it works if you work it.

I'm having a hard time not hating him. I truly hate him now. I hate him for what he did to me. I don't want this bitterness to follow me into another relationship. What can I do? He is such a jerk!!!!

Hey. I have not seen any post from you. If your new welcome to the site. It helps sharing, giving other a experience they can relate to. What is your story. Thanks for joining the site.

Amen. Thats write. right as rain. Its not. Its kinda like saying. ot raining out side its a bad day. But man its not worth the though. It is really just another day, just a little wetter. Get an unbralla and enjoy it. Then ex are enjoying themselves, we need to do the same. Thier is no noraml life, sad life, rich life. Thier is justlife, the rest is up to you.

That is hurtful, being with some one so long. My ex was soo nice and understanding after are breck up. Then after talking the next day she did a 360. I asked her for my things back and would respect her space, by getting my things from her brother when she is not thier, she just told me do stop bothering and get over it. like i said the day be4 she was like no i care about you. Ur a great guy. you can get your things. I do not know why people do this, but it happeds. Thanks for sharing. Good luck

Wow that is a lot of push and pulling. You are very strong. Anything like that with my ex would send me throught the roof. In some ways it easy doing NC, but when those opportunities present themselves they can be inviting. You did the right thing by re-blocking her number. Good luck on NC

the unknow is all i have as a constant right now.

 

i left "our" house with 2 boxes of clothes in my car an no plans.

 

i found myself about 16hrs (drive) away crashing with friends in LA.

 

right now my short term goals are to find a new job and new place to call home.

 

and of course to heal my broken heart.

 

I feel she will be back once the excitement/drama/attention of her new first time ever girl/girl relationship wears off and her "friends" become bored with her wanting attention all the time.

 

I found this on this site

"people throw away the good things in their life searching for something else, only to wind up with nothing."

exactly what will happen to her.

Hey focusing on a new job and place is good. That is the first time I have heard you talk about doing something for you on this site. Remember your a person, people throw away things. Thier will never be any one like you. Your are the first and last person like your self to every grace this green earth. We are all special and rare. Don't forget it.