heartless123

My situation is that she gave more but expected that power in exchange for giving more. Then what?

It seems to me that all the advice here leads to nc. When is this not the correct course of action or if you excuse the pun, inaction.

Lets say that one person in a relationship has attained more power regarding the direction of the relationship. In addition, this person can manipulate this power quite effectively to get their way when push comes to shove. Once you initiate no contact, isn't that going to drive this person away because they have lost their power?

This is a very nice tool. Now, if everybody can pitch in and correct where there are errors, this could be like the open source guide to talking with an ex.

Is my going nc in fact reinforcing my lack of communication when there is a problem?

When she told me she wanted to break up, I asked her if she thought that maybe we should just take a break from each other instead of breaking up. She said no, it is best that we are just friends. My things arrived at my house the next day. Does that sound like just a break and not a break up?

As for how I am doing with the nc...everything was ok until last night. About midnight, I wanted to call her very bad and try to resolve some issues. However, I didn't.

Here is the situation, dating the girl for about 2 years and I never really lose my cool. However, I yelled at her when she was nagging me to death. I appologized at least 20 times. Everything was fine for about 5 days and then she breaks up with me and sends all my stuff back. Our relationship was very good up to this point but she said that I wasn't the one she was looking for. I couldn't believe she could cut me off at the drop of a dime. In addition, there is no other person involved here. She gave me a long hug goodbye and a kiss and I immediately started nc after she left. Haven't talked to her since. It has now been about a week. Will the nc work? She was pretty ticked off at me but my goodness for one little mistake it seems like it was a little overboard. I told her there wasn't really anything I could say that would change what I had done and she said I don't expect you to say anything and that was it.