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11 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Worrying and fretting over a Bf's feelings is a waste of your youth. Seriously, embrace this time for yourself to experience new things. 

Thank you for your answer. Yes I think you're right it's the right decision to make. I will try to have another in depth conversation with him before deciding to do. And thank you! Japan is beautiful and I have so much to discover

3 hours ago, Batya33 said:

No one can control how they feel but they can control the reactions - find someone who is fine with how feelings change, ebb, flow and up for maintaining and growing their connection to you even when it's in an ebb stage because you and the relationship and the future are more than worth it.

You are so right about that. This isn't the first time he had doubts about his feelings but at that time I had managed to give him reassurance (?sorry english is not my native language) but it is really exhausting. I really love him but still I think I need someone who is sure about his feelings and who I can rely on. This relationship is too much of a rollercoaster.

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this is happening. LDRs are very lonely frustrating and difficult. It does seem like you've grown apart a lot and the honeymoon phase is over because of this fork in the road.

It's good he's being honest and not leading you on. Please reconsider hanging on. Perhaps you would enjoy your local life more if you set each other free. 

Thank you for your answer 🥺 It's difficult because we talked about our future together a lot but now he says that he can't project himself anymore, that maybe he is too immature for me etc. I am slowly adaptating here even if the 4 girls from my uni who came here made it clear they don't really want to spend time with me. But that's okay I am making acquaintances and I am getting used to loneliness.

My bf (20m) and I (23f) are on a temporary LDR as I am studying in another country for 5 months, with a time difference of 7 hrs. It's been only one month but he's already saying he is losing feelings for me. He feels really guilty about it, and I must say that in general he is often brooding, moody, is very sensitive and a big overthinker. When I left we were together for 10 months, we were very much in love even if we were getting comfortable, maybe the "honeymoon" phase was over.

Now I can tell smtg has changed : he is not as caring as before, as interested in the conversation, and he is not sending love notes anymore. Yesterday night I couldn't help going back to the topic, we cried a lot and he was feeling very guilty for hurting me, saying he only wanted my happiness, but this time I managed to reassure him, tell him it was okay, that I wasn't going to kill myself if he broke up and that I would heal, and if it wasn't meant to be then que sera sera. I told him I would stop reproaching him he wasn't invested enough in our texts, that he was always waking up at noon, that I would stop asking about his feelings, that we could send less texts and see how he feels. But it's hard to act normally now for me because I am afraid and a distance has been created btwn us. Even if we had issues in the past, I don't want to lose him. What can I do ? Do you think it's leading to a breakup ?