Blurry 123

On 5/7/2024 at 1:43 AM, Blurry 123 said:

I don't know if I'm a bad girl but I'm the black sheep of my family and they don't want to hear what I ever have to say, my brother beats me so much to the extent where he can stone me a glass because he hates me and my parents don't caution him because he helps with our finances

 

I broke my nose because of my brother, fell ill because of him and recently he hit me with his shoe with its sow lie a rod

 

I've got so many swellings in my body, bruises because of him

 

And fact I'm not usually wrong as long as I'm in the story he assumes it's me that caused it, even if I'm not part of the story

 

My other siblings takes him like their God but I can't stand it, what do I do 

What hurts me the most is that he never says sorry but all of a sudden we get along like he does with my other siblings and in situations relating to this he never hears me out, he just prefer hitting me 

On 5/7/2024 at 2:30 PM, yogacat said:

Gah, so your immediate family is physically and emotionally abusive.

You're definitely not a bad girl, you're in a bad situation. No one should have to go through what you're going through, especially at the hands of their own family. 

I agree that you need outside help -  seek out any resources available to help you get out of this situation. Reach out to local organizations or hotlines for help, contact authorities if necessary.

When you say he helps with finances, does that mean he's paying for your rent/car/etc.?

If so, that tie needs to removed and you need to find a way to make yourself self-sufficient. Do you live with him? Are you under the age of 18? There may be resources available through your school or a youth center to help you get out of this situation as well. 

In the meantime, try to avoid him as much as possible and keep yourself safe. And remember, you are not a bad girl - you are a victim of abuse.  

We don't pay rent we have a house

But just minor help, like provisions at times 

On 5/7/2024 at 7:13 AM, MissCanuck said:

OP, how old are you? 

What part of the world are you in?

Your answers to these questions may help us better guide you and steer you towards available local resources. 

I'm 16

Nigeria

I don't know if I'm a bad girl but I'm the black sheep of my family and they don't want to hear what I ever have to say, my brother beats me so much to the extent where he can stone me a glass because he hates me and my parents don't caution him because he helps with our finances

I broke my nose because of my brother, fell ill because of him and recently he hit me with his shoe with its sow lie a rod

I've got so many swellings in my body, bruises because of him

And fact I'm not usually wrong as long as I'm in the story he assumes it's me that caused it, even if I'm not part of the story

My other siblings takes him like their God but I can't stand it, what do I do 

1 hour ago, Bene20 said:

Yesterday, I went to this fancy restaurant that I always wanted to go to. I was pretty excited to be there but then when my friend showed up with his hot girlfriend I turned angry as soon as I saw her. You can probably see where I'm going but my friend's girlfriend is super hot while he's clearly an ugly loser. The whole evening was ruined because of them for me and I was drowning in envy. This guy is clearly unattractive and doesn't have anything that I don't, yet he somehow is able to hold this gorgeous girl's hand. It should be me instead. How did he get so lucky? I HATE IT! I can't believe that girls now choose losers over someone like me instead of appreciating the perfect guy that I am. I would've treated her far better than him and I'm way more attractive. This is truly unfair why don't girls want me? Do you guys have any positive advice? Why don't girls notice me?

He has a characteristic better than yours, you never know, maybe she's using him 

57 minutes ago, Bene20 said:

Yesterday, I went to this fancy restaurant that I always wanted to go to. I was pretty excited to be there but then when my friend showed up with his hot girlfriend I turned angry as soon as I saw her. You can probably see where I'm going but my friend's girlfriend is super hot while he's clearly an ugly loser. The whole evening was ruined because of them for me and I was drowning in envy. This guy is clearly unattractive and doesn't have anything that I don't, yet he somehow is able to hold this gorgeous girl's hand. It should be me instead. How did he get so lucky? I HATE IT! I can't believe that girls now choose losers over someone like me instead of appreciating the perfect guy that I am. I would've treated her far better than him and I'm way more attractive. This is truly unfair why don't girls want me? Do you guys have any positive advice? Why don't girls notice me?

Girls only come to you when they see how important you are, don't focus on finding a girlfriend, focus on doing things that'll make you important, if you have no good quality then bet me you're going no where

2 hours ago, Andrina said:

There are some who say that one shouldn't give advice unless asked. Sometimes people just want to vent and want a person to listen. Maybe he thought that's how he should proceed. In the future, if you want advice, just ask. 

Anyway, I'm more concerned about your livelihood now and even if you marry. If he died before you married, wouldn't his children get ownership of the house? And even if you married, since the property was purchased solely by him before marrying you, his children might get the house unless he specifically designates you to receive it in a trust or will.

If you are not socking away money into retirement and an emergency savings account, you might end up having to rent the cheapest room possible in the case of his death or because of a divorce. Therefore, you should be considering anything you can whittle away for what you're paying now. Either have him pay half for the maid or make a chore list you two can split. If you pay for cable, cut the cord and pay for just Internet and a cheap streaming service. Stop paying 100 percent for meals. With that extra money, start paying off your debt, since it's likely high interest. 

If he cares about your well-being, he won't argue for you two making changes to ensure your future nest egg. If your job isn't working out financially for you, consider applying for more lucrative work, or take on some extra part-time work.

What if he isn't good at giving advices

Not everyone is the same, he is so different, my boyfriend is the same

The best way is to make him feel guilty for hurting you, if you make him feel guilty he'll feel he's a bad person and continuously ask you what he's done to you, then you'll tell him

When you guys spend time together be quiet let him ask you what you're thinking of, don't go straight to the point and tell him, tell him to guess and make sure he fulfills it

Not everyone is the same, he is so different, my boyfriend is the same

The best way is to make him feel guilty for hurting you, if you make him feel guilty he'll feel he's a bad person and continuously ask you what he's done to you, then you'll tell him

When you guys spend time together be quiet let him ask you what you're thinking of, don't go straight to the point and tell him, tell him to guess and make sure he fulfills it

8 minutes ago, Jaunty said:

Since they're friends, of course your boyfriend will find out about it.   Seriously.

Yh, I know that but I don't just know what to do

Ok so I lied to my ex crush that I don't have a boyfriend why I do, he asked me out and I accepted but I'm cheating my boyfriend, the worse part is that his friend is a friend to my boyfriend

This crush of mine is in church, I only admire him, but getting a chance to be with everyone's dream boy just feels so nice, I said to myself "Patricia give it a try" and now I've done worse because I don't know how to tell him I have a boyfriend after lying I don't

What if his friend knows we're together and tell my boyfriend, what will I do