LouLou11

Thanks for affirming, I’ll be kind but firm and just break it off. I have a day off today and haven’t even told him for fear he invades my space so I guess that says it all… and no doubt he will realise I am off. When he does, I’ll have the convo. Otherwise, when he appears after work tonight.

thank you Wiseman

We’re not supposed to be living together, he’s just here. I do long for space but it feels like I’m chucking him out and that’s the way he takes it when I tell him I don’t need him around constantly. Even got to the stage my family feel awkward visiting I think as they’ve gone distant and don’t come around as much either now… money wise, it’s my house, my bills and the shopping was for me so he only went for it, but he’s been short as he doesn’t get shifts every day so I’ve helped him out for looking out for me I guess. But i draw the line at helping his ex. I think I know deep down it’s not right. I suppose I ask in the hope that someone will tell me I’m being unreasonable.

We’ve been seeing each other officially since new year… but known longer. I am giving serious thought to just breaking it off rather than giving a chance to be honest and change it…. Thank you

I started seeing someone I’ve known for a while and things had been going good. A couple of issues which are making me overthink… or is it overthinking? he stays most nights already…. He picked me up on my Snapchat location being off. It wasn’t, I just hadn’t used it for a few days and it doesn’t update on background. I asked if there was an issue and he said he just wanted to know I was safe. I was working from home… He’s comes in and goes to the bathroom, puts things in the bin and quizzes me on things he notices. Like whose crisp packet is this? Obviously mine! I live alone. Have I been out as he locked the door and now it’s unlocked. i brought up that he maybe doesn’t trust me and if that’s the case I need to know what I have done to perpetuate that? Nothing, he said. His ex cheated. Well, that’s her problem, not ours? he’s changing his shifts to spend more time, which isn’t required as we see each other every evening and weekend. It feels smothering. Then his phone blew up the other night and it was the ex. As he wouldn’t answer her she kept texting. And again he wouldn’t answer. I asked why he couldn’t answer? He said she needs money. theyve been split for years, their child is grown up and doesn’t live with the ex, and haven’t seen each other in years. So why on earth would she ask him!? Apparently he hates her. Like expresses hatred often for her. he told me her new man doesn’t have any shifts this week and she will pay him back on Saturday when he’s worked… WTAF? Alarm bells. anyway, yesterday he went to the shop, I sent him £100 for shopping for the week as I wasn’t well. today he asked for money for fuel. Like wasn’t there change from yesterday? It was supposed to last a week. Where did the money go? I’m not sure I can commit to living with someone who is still supporting an ex and needs my help when he’s done that. Also it’s got me overthinking, she cheated, which is apparently why he has trust issues. I’m thinking it’s either the case he still has feelings and is in touch or he’s the one doing something untrustworthy. I don’t want to hurt him so how do I set my boundaries without saying -“ cut ties or we are over” - as that’s bottom line how I feel about it.