I have been dating my bf for a bit now and things have been going well, but recently I've run into a small issue. I am a few years younger than him and can't legally drink yet, so therefor can't get into bars. Occasionally, but not often, my bf will go get drinks with his friends (girls and guys) but since they'll be at bars I can't join.
We are both involved in greek life, so we discussed our comfortability in terms of drinking and being around people who drink. My bf said he didn't like the idea of someone going out to drink all the time without their significant other, and putting themselves in a situation that is dangerous and allows you to be flirted with a lot. He did think that it mattered more though for girls, because they get hit on more than guys.
I agreed, and while I am not a partier whatsoever and neither is he, if I am going to a greek activity that involves drinking, I ask his comfortability with it and he does the same for me. So far he was only been out to drink at bars twice in our period of dating where I couldn't join. He is very good about communicating and making sure I am comfortable.
He said that of course, if I could join, he would invite me no question. But I still can't help but feel insecure about the fact that he's drinking with girls, even though they're his friends. He's very open about who he's with and what he's doing, and if he drank at all or not, but I still can't help but feel nervous and left out. I know it's important to spend time with friends, we can't always be attached at the hip, but I'm struggling a bit with putting these insecure feelings to rest. He is always there for me, and has given me no reason to distrust him, but I am so afraid of being left for a prettier girl.
I know that this problem is my own, but I don't know how to manage these emotions without hurting our relationship.
I have been dating my bf for a bit now and things have been going well, but recently I've run into a small issue. I am a few years younger than him and can't legally drink yet, so therefor can't get into bars. Occasionally, but not often, my bf will go get drinks with his friends (girls and guys) but since they'll be at bars I can't join. We are both involved in greek life, so we discussed our comfortability in terms of drinking and being around people who drink. My bf said he didn't like the idea of someone going out to drink all the time without their significant other, and putting themselves in a situation that is dangerous and allows you to be flirted with a lot. He did think that it mattered more though for girls, because they get hit on more than guys. I agreed, and while I am not a partier whatsoever and neither is he, if I am going to a greek activity that involves drinking, I ask his comfortability with it and he does the same for me. So far he was only been out to drink at bars twice in our period of dating where I couldn't join. He is very good about communicating and making sure I am comfortable. He said that of course, if I could join, he would invite me no question. But I still can't help but feel insecure about the fact that he's drinking with girls, even though they're his friends. He's very open about who he's with and what he's doing, and if he drank at all or not, but I still can't help but feel nervous and left out. I know it's important to spend time with friends, we can't always be attached at the hip, but I'm struggling a bit with putting these insecure feelings to rest. He is always there for me, and has given me no reason to distrust him, but I am so afraid of being left for a prettier girl. I know that this problem is my own, but I don't know how to manage these emotions without hurting our relationship.