country-girlwho

On 3/11/2024 at 8:18 AM, TeeDee said:

It's only 6 months.  

Does he ever give you his full attention?  If so then don't worry about the times he's doing 2 things at once.  It's possible to drive & talk or play a game on the phone & talk.  It's not ideal but it's not horrible. 

What are these stops on the way to your family?  If it's something that has to get done like picking up dry cleaning so he has clothes for work on Monday you can't be that annoyed.  Does he run errands when you two are doing other things?  Have you ever asked him if frequent visits to your family this early in the relationship bother him?   At merely 6 months in at age 22 I would not be bringing a SO around my family a lot.  

I have asked him before about how he feels about visiting my family and he says he likes how close my family is.  the stops on the way to my family are like driving 15-20 minutes the opposite direction to go say hi to this person that he hasn't talked to in forever.  

On 3/11/2024 at 12:15 AM, Coily said:

When you talk about his full attention, are we talking all the time, or with specific instances?

I won't us my hubris and tell you if this relationship is compatible or not, we don't have the tools from the outside to really know. Many times there is a lack of clear communication about expectations and requirements.

I would suggest you write a letter (one that you don't send) to your BF, and reflect on the good and bad of what is going on. then after a time re-read it. You need to wrap your head around what doesn't work for you, and think through what actions your BF has brought to the table.

by not giving his full attention I mean he gets on a video game for hours on end while I am with him.  and he doesn't even try to talk to me while he is on the game and if I try to talk with him/distract him he get annoyed with me.  

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Is this your first relationship? 28 weeks dating is the getting to know you period. You seem quite incompatible on almost every level. 

Please reconsider the relationship and cutting your losses. Please set each other free to find compatible people to date where there is mutual respect and you want the same things. 

no it is not my first relationship but thank you for your point of view.  I will definitely think about it 

16 minutes ago, country-girlwho said:

He is 24 I am 22.  We have been dating for 6 months.  He doesn't give me his full attention when we spend time together.  When we go to visit my family he always springs random stops we "have" to make.  He never wants to get up early to spend time with me on the weekends but if it is for him then he will get up early.  

I forgot to mention that every girl in his past has cheated on him so I know he has trust issues

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

How long have you been dating? How old is he? What exactly are ways he disrespects you?

Please listen to trusted friends and family. Trust your instincts. 

He is 24 I am 22.  We have been dating for 6 months.  He doesn't give me his full attention when we spend time together.  When we go to visit my family he always springs random stops we "have" to make.  He never wants to get up early to spend time with me on the weekends but if it is for him then he will get up early.  

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't respect me.  Most people in my life have expressed concerns that there is something off about him but they can't pinpoint what it is.  I don't know how to tell if he really respects me or not.